Most of my friends have had at least one steady or on and off relationship in their life. But personally, I've never even considered having such an attachment to someone until recently. Of course, there were times when I would beat myself for being the single one in my friend group. But I’ve come to realize that worrying about my status as the "single one" isn’t worth the stress. And even though being the single one in my friend group may be tough, it also has some perks.
1. Your stories always end up being the most interesting
Yes I know, the hookup culture is getting old. But it always ends with fun stories to tell later on. Some people may not indulge in the hookup culture when they’re single, but they still have the freedom to go on exotic trips with their friends, dance with different people at parties, and maybe even casually date. All without the fear of commitment.
2. You end up asking your friend “are you bringing your boyfriend?” in an annoyed tone before she even asks to do so
You’re used to your friend bringing her boyfriend to everything. It initially bothered you, but you’ve learned how to balance joining their conversations and giving them space when they need it. Plus, you always make sure to bring another friend along with you.
3. In reality, you end up asking this question because your friend’s boyfriend has become one of your good guy friends.
It’s safe for me to say that at least a handful of my guy friends are my best friends’ boyfriends. And I’m honestly so grateful for creating those friendships because every single girl needs at least a few good guy friends in her life.
4. Your friend’s boyfriend ends up being more of a third wheel than you.
If your friend’s boyfriend really knows who you are, he’s used to you and her sticking together while he's on the sidelines. Besides, there’s nothing he could actually do about it.
5. But of course, you still end up being the third wheel too
You’ve found yourself unashamed to be a third wheel and you just continue smiling with your friend and her boyfriend are all cuddling. I mean yeah it sucks sometimes, but again, this guy is your friend’s close friend too.
6. When your friend's boyfriend tries to set you up with one of his friends
Even though he just wants you to be happy and what not, you are not a huge fan of being set up with people. You like meeting people on your own terms and starting a conversation with them on your own. Plus when you try to get two random people to talk to each other, it always feels forced.
7. Some friends tell you to download Tinder, but you never take the app seriously
Most of the people on my campus have this dating app, but about 1% of them actually take it seriously. Some of Tinder bios state “no relationships” and only consist of weird messages, so you don’t even know why you’re on the app.
8. You always make sarcastic comments about relationships
All your friends know you as the sassy one who puts down relationships. You're usually joking when you do this, but you're also not in the mood to stand around your friends who are engaging in hard.core PDA. Sure you love them, but you don’t exactly need to see that.
9. Everyone still comes to you for relationship advice even though you’re the only one not in a relationship
You wonder why your friends always ask for your help with relationship drama since you know little to nothing about dating. However, you give yourself a pat on the back because you end up being better at giving relationship advice than you thought, go you.
10. You no longer wonder when you’ll start dating someone, and you're more into just seeing where life takes you
Saying that you want a boyfriend gets you nowhere, and constantly searching for a relationship won't help you find the right one. In the end, you just have to let things happen. And if something serious comes along the way, then you'll give it a shot.
