Long distance relationships are one of the hardest relationships to maintain. Lack of trust, miscommunication, and detachment are some of the many things that can lead a long distance relationship to go amiss.
There are many pros and cons to these relationships. Distance, believe it or not, can be both a pro and a con. It is definitely wonderful to have your space every once in a while, and distance allows for that. It gives you time to focus on school, work, clubs, or just about anything else. However, distance can also foster fear and jealousy within both partners. There is a lot of trust required in a long-distance relationship. You never really know what your significant other is doing. There is usually this constant fear that the other person may be cheating. That can cause irrational behavior and clinginess. You might constantly want to know where your partner is or what they are doing. If either you or your partner needs constant reassurance of your whereabouts, then it is likely that your relationship is just not working out. Without trust there is nothing and this goes for any type of relationship.
Fighting seems to take on a whole new level when you are far apart. There is no opportunity to run over to his/her house and force them to forgive you. Your options are a cell phone, Skype, Facebook, or whatever other social media site you use to stay connected. These options are useless when the cell phone and the laptop gets turned off (or so my boyfriend tells me). Personally, when I shut all of my electronics off, my boyfriend goes insane. He is terrified and pissed off all at the same time. He has no control over the situation and that drives him crazy. You make your partner mad and you just have to wait until they are ready to talk.
It is not all bad, though. When you finally get to see each other, it is utterly spectacular. I, for one, am overflowing with happiness every time my boyfriend comes to visit. I shower my boyfriend with hugs, kisses, and even talk to him in a baby voice (Do not act like you have never done it before). We relish our days together. Yeah, distance is definitely a killer and you come to the point where you cannot take not seeing each other. But the moment that you do, makes it all worth it.
Long distance relationships are not for everyone. It is a lot to ask of a person to commit to something that will most likely fail. However, if you can make things work, if you can move passed the fights, the trust issues, and the distance, the bond you will build is unimaginable. A different kind of love will grow and you will never regret it.
