There is an infamous dating trend in our generation that needs to be addressed. Although, there are many reasons for the lack of commitment, my reason may be a one size fits all.
For the past four years I have been going on social media to see either a new engagement or birth of a baby and I won't lie that the baby part gets me. I wish that I was ready to have a baby, a husband not so much, we might see a problem already. The problem with part of this generation, to not say all, is that we do not know what we want. I will be the first to admit this because I found myself dating people and then breaking it off because "I didn't want a commitment" or a better line " i'm just not ready."
So, If We Are Not Ready Why Bother Dating?
I did have feelings for someone, but I eventually hit a point in which I realized that he could be dating someone who was as ready as he was instead of waiting on something that might not happen. I would think of myself as a wife and a mother and I began to do the math. The cost of living in LA is expensive as it is. Sure I wanted his company, but I also wanted my freedom, stay with me.
Let's Keep It Casual
What's up with the casual dating? Does that mean he takes you on dates and then you "ghost?" This part I took from a friend, she explained to me that this was "the way to do it." It seems to work for many people, but I never got to that point. What I am trying to say is that nowadays we seem to want temporary
Tinder
Can I just say that this is my personal favorite. This app itself explains where we stand with dating as a generation.
I dare every single one of you to go on social media and count how many times you see a post related to dating. We are almost infatuated with finding the perfect one, but our expectations are unrealistic-we are waiting for it to look like the picture in which you left the #goals comment on.
Let me state this: It is okay to say that you are not ready. It took me long enough to realize that I want a relationship, but am not mentally prepared for it. Many will say that as long as you both know how you feel it is okay, wrong! from a personal experience I can say that someone will still get hurt. If you know that you are not ready avoid the " I told you how I felt from the beginning" speech because that is technically still your fault. Dating someone because you feel lonely is not a valid reason and perhaps that is where we all find ourselves…feeling lonely. Find your inner partner and date yourself for a while you might not be so bad!
