The Truth Behind The Cot Dammit Elizabeth Videos

The Truth Behind The Cot Dammit Elizabeth Videos

Is it really just "all fun and games?"

According to, seventy percent of individuals between the ages of 20 and 24 have experienced victimization of some sort from a significant other. This victimization may be in the form of physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse or exploitation.

Many of us have seen the Cot Dammit Elizabeth videos. To some, the videos are hilarious and harmless, and to others it looks like abuse. Ekow Fynn, 27, records small clips of his girlfriend Elizabeth, 21, being “lazy” and unmotivated to maintain a diet and workout schedule. He claims she asked him for help to stick to a diet and workout schedule. However, he takes things to the extreme. So much so, that it is disgusting for some of us to watch these videos. For starters, in these videos he forces her do ridiculous workouts late at night (i.e. running up and down stairs at 3 a.m. and swimming laps at midnight), pushes her forcefully into the water to swim, tells her to throw up the food she ate, and he screams at her when she does anything he does not approve of.

Tahoe Safe Alliance (2016) says “Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to violence. And while physical injury may be the most obvious danger, the emotional and psychological consequences of domestic abuse are also severe. Emotionally abusive relationships can destroy your self-worth, lead to anxiety and depression, and make you feel helpless and alone.”

Correct me if I’m wrong, but many of Ekow’s characteristics are considered abusive by the Tahoe Safe Alliance. Ekow forcefully pushes his girlfriend into the water to swim at midnight. He forces to wake up and do strenuous activities clearly against her will. He forces her to throw up the food she ate because she “asked for [my] help.” Okay, so maybe she asked for your help, but she probably never asked you to make her bulimic. Girls already have a lot of self-esteem problems, we don’t need our boyfriends telling us to throw up our food so we look good. He even calls her a “slob” when she takes naps, just adding to the emotional abuse he appears to show her often. Imagine someone calling us names when we’re exhausted after a long day. Most of us would feel defeated and unworthy, probably resulting a few tears.

Furthermore, Ekow hired someone to make sure Elizabeth stays on her diet when he can't be there to watch her. Not only is this disturbing, it is a characteristic of an abusive stalker. He is so strict on making sure she does exactly what he wants her to do and nothing else. Honestly, I pity Elizabeth.

I know a lot of you out there insist the Cot Dammit Elizabeth videos are made for fun and not harm. However, when every video he makes have at least one characteristic of abuse, how can you sit back and laugh at them? How can you not have pity for Elizabeth? If he treats her that way in front of the camera, just imagine how he is behind closed doors with nobody around. Typically abusers are more under control when other people are watching. The next time you see a Cot Dammit Elizabeth video, I challenge you to think about how you would feel in Elizabeth’s shoes before you laugh or share the video. The more you feed into an individual’s abusive personality, the more the individual becomes abusive. Stand with Elizabeth and the other 70 percent of American citizens between the ages of 20-24 who have been victimized by a significant other. Remember, love never hurts.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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Why The Idea Of 'No Politics At The Dinner Table' Takes Place And Why We Should Avoid It

When did having a dialogue become so rare?


Why has the art of civilized debate and conversation become unheard of in daily life? Why is it considered impolite to talk politics with coworkers and friends? Expressing ideas and discussing different opinions should not be looked down upon.

I have a few ideas as to why this is our current societal norm.

1. Politics is personal.

Your politics can reveal a lot about who you are. Expressing these (sometimes controversial) opinions may put you in a vulnerable position. It is possible for people to draw unfair conclusions from one viewpoint you hold. This fosters a fear of judgment when it comes to our political beliefs.

Regardless of where you lie on the spectrum of political belief, there is a world of assumption that goes along with any opinion. People have a growing concern that others won't hear them out based on one belief.

As if a single opinion could tell you all that you should know about someone. Do your political opinions reflect who you are as a person? Does it reflect your hobbies? Your past?

The question becomes "are your politics indicative enough of who you are as a person to warrant a complete judgment?"

Personally, I do not think you would even scratch the surface of who I am just from knowing my political identification.

2. People are impolite.

The politics themselves are not impolite. But many people who wield passionate, political opinion act impolite and rude when it comes to those who disagree.

The avoidance of this topic among friends, family, acquaintances and just in general, is out of a desire to 'keep the peace'. Many people have friends who disagree with them and even family who disagree with them. We justify our silence out of a desire to avoid unpleasant situations.

I will offer this: It might even be better to argue with the ones you love and care about, because they already know who you are aside from your politics, and they love you unconditionally (or at least I would hope).

We should be having these unpleasant conversations. And you know what? They don't even need to be unpleasant! Shouldn't we be capable of debating in a civilized manner? Can't we find common ground?

I attribute the loss of political conversation in daily life to these factors. 'Keeping the peace' isn't an excuse. We should be discussing our opinions constantly and we should be discussing them with those who think differently.

Instead of discouraging political conversation, we should be encouraging kindness and understanding. That's how we will avoid the unpleasantness that these conversations sometimes bring.

By avoiding them altogether, we are doing our youth a disservice because they are not being exposed to government, law, and politics, and they are not learning to deal with people and ideas that they don't agree with.

Next Thanksgiving, talk politics at the table.

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