The Truth Behind The Cot Dammit Elizabeth Videos

The Truth Behind The Cot Dammit Elizabeth Videos

Is it really just "all fun and games?"

According to, seventy percent of individuals between the ages of 20 and 24 have experienced victimization of some sort from a significant other. This victimization may be in the form of physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse or exploitation.

Many of us have seen the Cot Dammit Elizabeth videos. To some, the videos are hilarious and harmless, and to others it looks like abuse. Ekow Fynn, 27, records small clips of his girlfriend Elizabeth, 21, being “lazy” and unmotivated to maintain a diet and workout schedule. He claims she asked him for help to stick to a diet and workout schedule. However, he takes things to the extreme. So much so, that it is disgusting for some of us to watch these videos. For starters, in these videos he forces her do ridiculous workouts late at night (i.e. running up and down stairs at 3 a.m. and swimming laps at midnight), pushes her forcefully into the water to swim, tells her to throw up the food she ate, and he screams at her when she does anything he does not approve of.

Tahoe Safe Alliance (2016) says “Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to violence. And while physical injury may be the most obvious danger, the emotional and psychological consequences of domestic abuse are also severe. Emotionally abusive relationships can destroy your self-worth, lead to anxiety and depression, and make you feel helpless and alone.”

Correct me if I’m wrong, but many of Ekow’s characteristics are considered abusive by the Tahoe Safe Alliance. Ekow forcefully pushes his girlfriend into the water to swim at midnight. He forces to wake up and do strenuous activities clearly against her will. He forces her to throw up the food she ate because she “asked for [my] help.” Okay, so maybe she asked for your help, but she probably never asked you to make her bulimic. Girls already have a lot of self-esteem problems, we don’t need our boyfriends telling us to throw up our food so we look good. He even calls her a “slob” when she takes naps, just adding to the emotional abuse he appears to show her often. Imagine someone calling us names when we’re exhausted after a long day. Most of us would feel defeated and unworthy, probably resulting a few tears.

Furthermore, Ekow hired someone to make sure Elizabeth stays on her diet when he can't be there to watch her. Not only is this disturbing, it is a characteristic of an abusive stalker. He is so strict on making sure she does exactly what he wants her to do and nothing else. Honestly, I pity Elizabeth.

I know a lot of you out there insist the Cot Dammit Elizabeth videos are made for fun and not harm. However, when every video he makes have at least one characteristic of abuse, how can you sit back and laugh at them? How can you not have pity for Elizabeth? If he treats her that way in front of the camera, just imagine how he is behind closed doors with nobody around. Typically abusers are more under control when other people are watching. The next time you see a Cot Dammit Elizabeth video, I challenge you to think about how you would feel in Elizabeth’s shoes before you laugh or share the video. The more you feed into an individual’s abusive personality, the more the individual becomes abusive. Stand with Elizabeth and the other 70 percent of American citizens between the ages of 20-24 who have been victimized by a significant other. Remember, love never hurts.

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10 Reasons Your Big Sister Is The Best Person In Your Life

"There is no better friend than a sister, and there is no better sister than you."

As much as I hate to admit it, my big sister might be sort-of, slightly, cooler than I am.

Sometimes. She's the one I call when I can't call mom and the only one in the family who can properly handle my attitude. Big sisters are the people you'd choose if they weren't already family, and here's why.

1. She is your first and truest friend.

Big sisters are (literally) there from day one. They see every dirty diaper, every bad haircut, and every melodramatic breakup. They deal with every bad day and drama queen attitude and still love you in the most unconditional way.

2. Her closet is your closet.

For some reason, her clothes always look better on you. Funny how that works, huh? With a big sister comes a big closet, and who doesn't love having a double wardrobe? I'd also like to take this opportunity to apologize for the clothes I will never give back (but I'm not really that sorry).

3. She knows what it's like to deal with your parents.

Anything you could possibly be going through, they went through it first. It's kind of like having an instruction manual or a key to the future. Either way, it's always nice to have someone who will always understand the struggle.

4. There are no boundaries.

Wanna dance around in your underwear all day? Cool. Life talks while she's on the toilet? Also cool. There's no awkward moments or changing in the bathroom with the door locked. There's just the kind of freedom that only comes with siblings.

5. Thanks to her, you know about all of the cool movies/music/fashion trends from years back.

Thanks to my sister, I have every Too $hort and Ludacris song you could ever think of downloaded on my phone. I've seen every cheesy '90s movie, and when a fad from 10 years ago comes back in, I already have the hookup.

6. She tells you like it is.

We all have those friends who tend to sugarcoat everything. Yeah, sisters don't do that. She's the first person to tell me when I'm making a terrible decision and that I really shouldn't triple text that boy again. She keeps it real with me and deals with my attitude, and that's why she's the best.

7. Her home is always open.

Sometimes you just need to get away from life and binge watch Netflix, and sometimes you need all of that plus your sister. She always has her door open when you're two seconds away from losing your mind, and she also has good takeout and a dog.

8. She knows what you're capable of.

My sister knows exactly who I am and what I can do. She knows when I'm not doing my best, and when I need to be set straight. She's always there to remind me who I am and what I'm capable of accomplishing. She's always been my biggest fan.

9. She's a lot cheaper than therapy.

For some reason, my sister always knows just what to say. Even if I don't see it at the time, she's usually right (don't tell her I said that). Big sisters are like wizards, somehow they always magically make you feel like life's gonna turn out alright in the end. If she wasn't already awesome at everything else, I'd suggest she be a therapist.

10. She will always be your go-to gal.

No matter the situation, she will always be by your side. There is nothing you could say or do to make a big sister leave, and that's why they're the best. Whether it's a speeding ticket, a mean girl or you just need to laugh, big sisters are always going to be there to lift your spirits and set you straight.

I couldn't make it without ya sis, I'm sorry for ratting you out on Thanksgiving that one time, and for running away at the zoo. Thanks for taking me to see Aaron Carter even though he's way too old to still be singing "I want Candy," and thank you always for being the best role model, sister and friend I could ask for.

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A Little Skepticism Goes A Long Way

Be informed citizens and verify what you see and hear.


These days more than ever before we are being bombarded constantly by a lot of news and information, a considerable amount of which is inaccurate. Sometimes there's an agenda behind it to mislead people and other times its just rumors or distortion of the facts. So, how do you sift through all this and get accurate information? How can you avoid being misled or brainwashed?

This is an important topic because the decisions each of us make can affect others. And if you are a responsible citizen your decisions can affect large numbers of people, hopefully positively, but negatively as well.

It's been said that common sense is not something that can be taught, but I am going to disagree. I think with the right training, teaching the fundamentals behind common sense can get people to have a better sense of what it is and start practicing it. All you will need is to improve your general knowledge and gain some experience, college is a good place for that, then add a little skepticism and you are on your way to start making sensible decisions.

One of the fundamental things to remember is not to believe a statement at face value, you must first verify. Even if you believe it's from a trusted source, they may have gotten their info from a questionable one. There's a saying that journalists like to use: "if your mother said, 'I love you' you should verify it.'" While this is taking it a bit too far, you get the idea.

If you feel that something is not adding up, or doesn't make sense then you are probably right. This is all the more reason to check something out further. In the past, if someone showed a picture or video of something that was sufficient proof. But nowadays with so many videos and picture editing software, it would have to go through more verification to prove its authenticity. That's not the case with everything but that's something that often needs to be done.

One way of checking if something sounds fishy is to look at all the parties involved and what do they have to gain and lose. This sometimes is easier to use when you're dealing with a politics-related issue, but it can work for other things where more than one person/group is involved. For example, most people and countries as well will not do something that is self-destructive, so if one party is accusing the other of doing something self-destructive or disadvantageous then it's likely that there is something inaccurate about the account. Perhaps the accusing party is setting the other one up or trying to gain some praise they don't deserve.

A lot of times all it takes is a little skepticism and some digging to get to the truth. So please don't be that one which retweets rumors or helps spread misinformation. Verify before you report it.


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