If Your 'True Friends' Keep Letting You Down, It's On You To Get New Friends

If Your 'True Friends' Keep Letting You Down, It's On You To Get New Friends

It's not you, it's them.


To the person who feels like they are being left out…

We've all been there. Feeling as if everyone is having fun without you and that they are excluding you on purpose. It leaves you wondering what you may (or may not) have done to deserve this treatment. It's worse than people telling you straight up that they don't want to be around you because you can tell that your so-called friends are most certainly trying their hardest to avoid you. To avoid talking to you, being near you and even making eye contact with you.

It sucks.

But you know what? Those so-called friends are people that maybe you shouldn't be hanging around with. I mean, why would you want to in the first place? Wouldn't you rather be around people that actually enjoy your presence and respect you and your ideas? I know I do! This experience is truly a test of quality over quantity; it's better to have friends who will stick by you and not talk shit behind your back over people who pick and choose when they'll be your friend.

Of course, it can get difficult at times. You question why you aren't good enough for them. In fact, I can probably tick off some of the questions you may be asking yourself: Am I annoying? Do I smell weird? Am I just too boring to be around? So many different scenarios run through your head on why you can't seem to gain these people's approval.

Eventually, you will come to realize that you're the bigger person and they're being immature and that you, in fact, aren't any of those things! One day you're going to wake up and realize that you're absolutely most positively PERFECT the way you are and the people who stick around you is the validation you were looking for in all the wrong people to show you that it's not you, it's them.

Honest to God, it's their loss that they're losing out on a great friend such as yourself. But before you go off making assumptions, talk to them first. Try and figure out what's going on in their heads. It's better to have a conversation about it than to keep hurting. Maybe you tried confronting them and there has been no change. In that case, it's time to reevaluate the relationships you have with them. Are they worth it to keep trying? If you really think you can fix things with these people, then keep working on mending the friendship. If they already dropped you, then I would say no, it's time to let them go.

Making friends and them keeping them can be hard and heartbreaking at times but once you see the positive outcome of a good friend, it becomes evident who is important in your life. As cheesy as it sounds, true friends will be there for you through thick and thin and will love you for who you are.

Get yourself some true friends. You will be much happier when you surround yourself with people who want to be with you!

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An Open Letter To My Unexpected Best Friend

You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better.

“It’s so amazing when someone comes to your life and you expect nothing out of it but suddenly there right in front of you is everything you ever need.”


Dear Unexpected Best Friend,

You were the person I never thought I would speak to and now you are my very best friend. You came out of nowhere and changed my life for the better. I can’t thank you enough for everything you have done to shape me into the person I am today. You’ve taught me what it means to be selfless, caring, patient, and more importantly adventurous.

You don’t realize how much better my life has become and all because you came out of nowhere. I didn’t see you coming. I just saw you on occasion, and now I can’t see my life without you in it. It’s funny how life works itself out like that. Our unexpected friendship filled a hole in my life that I didn’t know existed.

I don’t even remember what life was like before you came along; it most likely had a lot less laughter and spontaneity than it does today. I can call you about anything and you would drop whatever you're doing to help me in any situation. You know when I need encouragement. You know when I am at my best and when I am at my worst. You always know exactly what to say.

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I couldn’t have found a better friend than you if I tried. We balance each other out in the best way possible. You are most definitely the ying to my yang, and I don’t care how cliché that sounds. Because of you, I’ve learned to stop caring what people think and to do my own thing regardless of any backlash I might receive. You are my very favorite part of what makes me who I am to this day.

It’s as if I wished up a best friend, and poof—you appeared right in front of me. I am so beyond blessed to have you and I wouldn’t trade the world for all our memories. Thanks for coming out of nowhere.

Love you forever and a day.

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I'm Proud Of My Friends Because They Show Me The True Meaning Of Love Every Day

In the midst of a competitive, harsh society of school and work, my friends teach me everyday what it means to love.


Every Christmas, our friend group does Secret Santa, our little way of celebrating the holiday season even when all of us can't meet up at one time over the break. And every summer, we all meet up with each other and spend the entire day together, taking a slew of pictures and laughing nonstop.

I've come to realize in the past school year that competitive energy can bring out the worst in people, especially the ones you expected it from the least. But I have not seen my friends waver once against the hard, cold face of competition. They've stayed completely true to themselves and the bonds they have with their close friends.

One of my friends is one of the only people I spend more time with during the day than I do by myself. She and I are currently part of a philanthropic program dedicated to raising money for blood cancer research, and we think of each other as sisters.

She and I have shared tears, memories and laughs so close to me that I will never forget the impact she has left on my life. She has changed me as a person, and I think that's what it means to love. As one of my best friends, she teaches me every single day of my life what it means to be a strong, fearless woman.

I see a lot of my friends only once in a while, but it makes me think about the fact that no matter how little we get to see each other, we still have that same appreciation and respect for one another that started the friendship in the first place.

No matter how close I consider myself to each person I call a friend, they all think about me even when they don't need to. They give me little tokens and pep talks when I'm feeling down and make sure to focus on making me cheerful when I'm not myself. They carry themselves with so much emotional elegance, and I have never been more thankful to be a part of their lives.

Every single day that I see them, they teach me how to be a better person.

What makes me proudest of my friends is that they are not afraid to put me in my place. Everything they say to me is out of concern for my well-being, but they always make sure to tell me when I'm wrong. It's something I disliked at first (considering sugarcoating was just a way of hiding the truth when I didn't want to hear it) but came to enormously respect.

They teach me the meaning of love everyday by molding me into a combination of tough love and empathy.

The friend who fights by my side everyday against blood cancers gives me a hug at the first sign that I'm not happy, but she doesn't hesitate to stop me when I start blaming other details for my mistakes. The friends who love giving gifts every holiday season to show their love when we can't see each other are the same people who explain to me the rational reasoning of a situation when my emotions take over. The friends who I see only a few times a month also teach me that there is value to having distant friends who aren't always there.

It's so strange how much I've changed because of the people I've surrounded myself with because I always say I'll stay true to myself. But I'm a mix of their individual personalities, and I've never been happier.

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