Have you ever thought you had the best judgment of people? Have you ever thought that you could pick and choose the right people to trust with your deepest secrets? Have you ever believed that you had people to confide in? Yet, have those people shown you a different side to them that you aren’t particularly used to seeing? It’s vital to know we can’t see through people right off the bat, and it usually takes an argument or someone’s hidden anger to bring out that other side of themselves.
“In the beginning, some people try to appear that everything about them is ‘in black and white,’ until later their true colors come out.” - Anthony Liccione
I've learned the hard way that opening up to people takes time, because building trust is the most important variable within any sort of relationship. Thinking about your own feelings and deciding whether or not you want to expose them to someone for the first time, would mean developing a balance of trust towards them. I believe that every person deserves the benefit of the doubt, each person has good in them even when it’s layered by particularly uncompromisable traits. But, I've learned that you can't save someone that doesn't want to be saved, and you can't change a person unless they're willing to change for themselves first.
You want to be able to know that there are people in your life that care and are willing to accept you for who you are, for all of your faults. If you accept someone's true colors from the beginning, you really shouldn't blame them for how things turn out in the end. You had been fully aware of how they really are. In most cases, we tend to ignore how some of the people we're close to actually are because we want to continue to see the good in them. One must put themselves before others, and one must remember that many of the people that walk into our lives are temporary; they are able to walk out just as easily as they walked in. Remembering to put yourself first isn't as easy as it sounds, I know this first hand and I'm still learning so much about myself and those that are around me each day. It's crucial that we focus on ourselves as well as our expectations for the various relationships we would like to have with people.
