10 Ways To Treat Her Right

10 Ways To Treat Her Right

Essentials to a Serious Relationship
1366
views

Boys, more than likely you have found the right girl. But chances are you don’t quite know what she needs. So here is a list of things that you can do to make things a whole lot better between you two. When you and your queen start getting really good at being together, you will find that it is very difficult being apart.

Communicate.

If you have been dating for a while and are past that awkward new-relationship phase, talk to each other about everything. You two need to establish a transparent line of communication where you can give yourselves the best opportunity to understand each other.

Learn about one another.

The more you talk the more you learn about one another. You may find that you have a lot more in common than you think. This opens up a world of fun and exploration for the two of you.

Let her know she is appreciated.

When her contributions are acknowledged and appreciated by you, her confidence will soar and she will be motivated to keep being awesome for you. Your friends will call you lucky to be with such a great girl.

Go all out for her.

Like the Blink-182 song goes: “surprises let me know she cares.” Even when it is not a special occasion, treat her to something special. Those special things may be just what she needs on a rough day. If you have done the first few things on the list, you will know exactly what to do for her. Every girl is different. Every girl has those things that make them the happiest. Cheese seems to work really well a lot of the time.

Be passionate.

Feelings and emotion are a big thing for most girls. Every time you touch it should be soft, delicate and affectionate (unless she tells you otherwise... hint-hint). Give her lots of hugs all of the time and kiss her everywhere. She will love all of the attention and you will learn how to give her goosebumps on demand. She will melt in your arms.

Be protective.

It is a good feeling when you are the one who makes a girl feel safe. Know what makes her feel uncomfortable and work to keep her safe from those things. Now, this doesn’t mean be ready to square up with every dude that walks by, but have the tact and the social intelligence to keep her out of uncomfortable situations, or if you are in one, to get yourselves out.

Be friends with her friends.

Even if you and her friends aren’t into the same things, seeing how you are with her friends and in social situations can tell her a lot about you that you probably couldn’t express directly with words. This also play’s off the last one. People feel safe with their friends. With her friends, you will see her as her most natural self. This will give you a good idea as to who she really is.

Invite her to hang with your friends.

She will be able to make a solid determination about you by knowing your friends. If she likes your friends, you’re in. This is a big thing for girls to see if you are truly being yourself around them.

Make sacrifices.

This one is a bit cliché, but everything becomes cliché for a reason. Usually there is some truth to it. Relationships are not easy and the must be some give and take in order for things to work. When your queen sees that you are giving things up for her, chances are you will see some type of return in the future. She will appreciate what you do for her and maybe she will make it worth your while. A giving spirit is a happy one.

Be her best friend.

I didn’t save this for last because it is the least important, but because it is perhaps the MOST important and I wanted this the be the last thing you read. It sums up everything else in this short list. If you are best friends with your girlfriend, she is probably the one. Everything aforementioned in this list is a component to friendship. A good relationship is a friendship at its core. If you have these things, you are going to be well off.

Cover Image Credit: Alexandra Collier

Popular Right Now

An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.
204557
views

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.

Sincerely,

Your Son’s Girlfriend

Cover Image Credit: Christian Images and Quotes

Related Content

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

25 Girls Who Prove That We Can Change The World Before We're 25

Whatever your thing is, there's a role model in here somewhere.

2185
views

Young girls get a bad rap. We have an internalized imaged seared into our minds. We, consciously or subconsciously, are made to think of the annoying, dramatic, ungrateful, risk-taking, boy-mad monsters that shouldn't be taken too seriously. In fact, that is what most of history has done: not taken us "too seriously" by erasing the narrative of half the population.

As a teenage girl myself, I don't get it; I've seen women my age accomplish incredible feats with the grace and truth they're destined to bestow. Mine is a glorious perspective of my identity group by which I'd love you to be empowered. Let's sprinkle some feminist positivity around like confetti.

The following is a list of young women who altered their lives and the lives of little girls after them. These ladies engage in everything from unapologetic activism to summiting unforeseen artistic peaks to intellectual achievements that boggle to the adult mind and more. Whatever your thing is, there's a role model in here somewhere.

1. Mary Shelly

Giphy

When most people turn twenty-one, they get trashed. When Mary Shelly turned twenty-one, she published her most famous novel: "Frankenstein" and invented the genre of science-fiction.

2.  Claudette Colvin

Giphy

Heard of Rosa Parks? Well, this fifteen-year-old firecracker actually pulled that move first. She pioneered the road of pacifism in not yielding her seat to a white man and was arrested in Alabama as a young leader of the Civil Rights Movement.

3. Malala Yousafzai

Giphy

Where do I start with this angel? Malala was only eleven when she started writing articles for the BBC, describing her life under Taliban rule. When she was fifteen, Malala advocated for Pakistani girls' education and, in turn, a terrorist group shot her in the head. She survived. By the time she was young and sweet (only seventeen), she received the Nobel Peace Prize.

4. Joan of Arc

Giphy

Joan rose from poverty at the age of fifteen to head her beloved French army during the battle at Joan Orléans. The French won. Experts argue that this decisive victory made England decide not to conquer France during the Hundred Years War. A national heroine with God's backing? Yes, please.

5. Ella Marija Lani Yelich-O'Connor, A.K.A. Lorde

Giphy

This kiwi was sixteen when she broke into the music business and a short year later, she won a Grammy!

6. Mary Joachim

Arguably the first evangelist and one of the most popular saints, the Virgin Mary birthed Jesus of Nazareth (and did a whole bunch of existence-altering activities that I recommend you read for yourself in Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John) when she was probably twelve.

7. Bindi Irwin

Giphy

Now twenty years old, Bindi has always cared about carrying on her father's legacy of conservation and the respectful awe of nature. She started early with this mission by presenting a 26-part wildlife documentary at nine years old.

8. Jazz Jennings

Giphy

Jazz Jennings, a transgender girl, is famous for being one of the youngest publicly documented people to proudly identify as transgender in America. She was born in 2000!

9. Mo'Ne Davis

Giphy

Being thirteen is challenging, but Mo'Ne did it better than all of us when she challenged gender stereotypes in athletics. She was the first girl to earn a pitch a flawless shutout and win the game in all of Little League World Series history.

10. Trisha Prabhu

Giphy

This lovely human is a teenage advocate for anti-bullying and the brilliant inventor of the patented ReThink™ Technology, which aids servers in detecting and ending online hate.

11. Emma Gonzalez

Giphy

Don't call B.S. on this girl's power. As a high school senior she survived the Parkland shooting and, as a brave response, co-founded the gun-control advocacy group Never Again.

12. Cleopatra VII

Giphy

Bow down, literally. Subsequent to coming to the throne at eighteen, Cleopatra ruled over Egypt for nearly three decades.

13. Kylie Jenner

Giphy

What can I say? Jenner is expected to become the youngest billionaire with her massively successful business. I didn't say it, Forbes did.

14. Eva Peron, A.K.A. Evita

Giphy

While this Argentine woman was under twenty-five and married to her nation's president, Juan Perón, she became a vital symbol for the lower economic classes through unofficial political finessing.

15. Helena Rubinstein

Giphy

An immigrant and cosmetics entrepreneur, Rubenstein was the founder of Helena Rubinstein Incorporated, which made her one of the world's richest women at a young age. Lipstick holds influence.

16. Rosalind Franklin

Giphy

While all women on this list are under appreciated, Rosalind might take the cake for being stripped of recognition. Undercut by her male peers, she was at university when she discovered the double helix molecular structure of DNA, changing science forever but getting zero credit until she died.

17. Mirabai

Giphy

A Hindu saint and devotee of Sri Krishna who defied social norms for her faith, need I say more?

18. Rowan Blanchard

Giphy

Known just as much for her activism as her acting, Rowan Blanchard takes ownership of her voice for the next generation.

19. Alexandra Scott

Despite only living four years, Alexandra Scott left the world brighter than she found it. Before she began kindergarten, she ran an inspirational lemonade stand to raise money for childhood cancer research. Touched by her testimony and drive, people around the world set up their own lemonade stands to raise money for her cause. By the time of her passing, she had raised a million dollars.

20. Ruby Bridges

Giphy

A symbol of peaceful progress, Rubi Bridges was the first African-American child to desegregate an all-white elementary school.

21. Capri Everitt

In the least selfish move of anyone's adolescences, Capri Everitt was eleven when she started raising unreal amounts of money for orphans. Using her voice to make a positive impact, she traveled to dozens of countries and sweetly sang the nation's anthem in the national language. Funny what happens when you don't silence historically oppressed groups, huh?

22. Simone Biles

Giphy

Prepare to feel unathletic. Simone Biles is the most decorated American gymnast, with nineteen shiny Olympic and World Championship medals before she was legally allowed to drink.

23. Rupi Kaur

Giphy

Rupi Kaur was in college, unsure of her path (#relatable) when she decided to self-publish a poetry book that was so popular that you've probably seen someone with it in a coffee shop.

24. Anne Frank

With more bravery and composure than most grown people possess, this German-born Jewish girl recorded her emotions in a diary while hiding from the Nazi party. While everyone who reads her work agrees that she deserved the world, her story doesn't have a happy ending. Frank was found and taken to a concentration camp, where she died before she turned sixteen, leaving her words as her legacy.

25. Mari Andrew

Mari Andrew represents the best of millennials. She is a young writer and illustrator in New York City with a book out. If you haven't checked out her Instagram, I recommend seeing her work. Her pieces will detangle all your frantic, knotty, intrusive thoughts.

Women are really out here trying to do the right thing.

Related Content

Facebook Comments