10 Ways To Treat Her Right

10 Ways To Treat Her Right

Essentials to a Serious Relationship
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Boys, more than likely you have found the right girl. But chances are you don’t quite know what she needs. So here is a list of things that you can do to make things a whole lot better between you two. When you and your queen start getting really good at being together, you will find that it is very difficult being apart.

Communicate.

If you have been dating for a while and are past that awkward new-relationship phase, talk to each other about everything. You two need to establish a transparent line of communication where you can give yourselves the best opportunity to understand each other.

Learn about one another.

The more you talk the more you learn about one another. You may find that you have a lot more in common than you think. This opens up a world of fun and exploration for the two of you.

Let her know she is appreciated.

When her contributions are acknowledged and appreciated by you, her confidence will soar and she will be motivated to keep being awesome for you. Your friends will call you lucky to be with such a great girl.

Go all out for her.

Like the Blink-182 song goes: “surprises let me know she cares.” Even when it is not a special occasion, treat her to something special. Those special things may be just what she needs on a rough day. If you have done the first few things on the list, you will know exactly what to do for her. Every girl is different. Every girl has those things that make them the happiest. Cheese seems to work really well a lot of the time.

Be passionate.

Feelings and emotion are a big thing for most girls. Every time you touch it should be soft, delicate and affectionate (unless she tells you otherwise... hint-hint). Give her lots of hugs all of the time and kiss her everywhere. She will love all of the attention and you will learn how to give her goosebumps on demand. She will melt in your arms.

Be protective.

It is a good feeling when you are the one who makes a girl feel safe. Know what makes her feel uncomfortable and work to keep her safe from those things. Now, this doesn’t mean be ready to square up with every dude that walks by, but have the tact and the social intelligence to keep her out of uncomfortable situations, or if you are in one, to get yourselves out.

Be friends with her friends.

Even if you and her friends aren’t into the same things, seeing how you are with her friends and in social situations can tell her a lot about you that you probably couldn’t express directly with words. This also play’s off the last one. People feel safe with their friends. With her friends, you will see her as her most natural self. This will give you a good idea as to who she really is.

Invite her to hang with your friends.

She will be able to make a solid determination about you by knowing your friends. If she likes your friends, you’re in. This is a big thing for girls to see if you are truly being yourself around them.

Make sacrifices.

This one is a bit cliché, but everything becomes cliché for a reason. Usually there is some truth to it. Relationships are not easy and the must be some give and take in order for things to work. When your queen sees that you are giving things up for her, chances are you will see some type of return in the future. She will appreciate what you do for her and maybe she will make it worth your while. A giving spirit is a happy one.

Be her best friend.

I didn’t save this for last because it is the least important, but because it is perhaps the MOST important and I wanted this the be the last thing you read. It sums up everything else in this short list. If you are best friends with your girlfriend, she is probably the one. Everything aforementioned in this list is a component to friendship. A good relationship is a friendship at its core. If you have these things, you are going to be well off.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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What, In My Opinion, Guys Really Want In A Girl

It may not be as simple as you think.

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I've recently started "watching" this show with my wife called "Paradise Hotel" or something like that. I think it's on Fox. It's pretty much a competition to see who can make it as a "couple" the longest or till the end to win a ton of money. It's a reality show that is filled with drama and hot bodies and more drama. I watch this show because, honestly I kind of like the drama, and my wife watches it so what the heck.

We were watching it the other day and there was an opportunity for two more girls to be put on the show. As the other guys asked questions and got to know these potential women, I told my wife which girl they guys would pick. She picked the others over the one I said, because of their "bodies." However, the girl I picked was the one whom the guys picked. My wife looked at me and said "How did you do that?"

Here's the deal: Guys have been SO poorly shown to be all about certain looks and nothing else. And this simply isn't true.

I should put a disclaimer here: I'm referring to "guys" as (mostly) mature men who are into dating and have their crap together. This doesn't include boys who just want their 2 minutes of relief and are just aimlessly guiding through life.

Okay so yes, A LOT of what guys look for is looks. I can't sugar-coat that or lie about it. No guy I know will date a girl whom he doesn't find attractive. That doesn't mean that if one guy doesn't go for a certain lady, that she is ugly or whatever. It means that one guy doesn't find her attractive, but plenty others might! To each their own.

So yes, looks are important and a must. But there are so many more attributes that are important:

These could be a fun and outgoing personality, a sense of humor, confidence in your looks and self-identify, and some maturity. I know guys can be really really immature, but there are a lot of girls out their with women's bodies and a child's mind.

We also love a girl who respects herself. And understands what a man needs. Men do need respect. It's something that we crave and have to have. Women should be respected as well. I'm not advocating that respect is a one-way street. But having a girl who admires and respects who we are (once we earn their trust) is just a necessity.

Another couple things that are a must for guys is to not be freaking psycho. I know all women (and people for that matter) have their emotional outbursts. I don't think I'm being sexist to say that women, in general, might be more emotional people than men because of hormones and stuff... although I've seen plenty of men who need to stop being such wimps. But psycho and loud women just get on our last nerves.

Maybe I didn't answer any of your questions, but maybe this gave you a bit of an idea of what we want and look for in the women we want to date and eventually settle down for life with.

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