If you currently have a membership to the She-Woman Man Haters Club we are kindly asking you to return your membership card and stop treating the men of the world like garbage just because they have a penis. Furthermore, we would appreciate it if you stop qualifying what makes a good feminist based on ridiculous standards. K, thanks.
I have spoken out before about my thoughts on Feminism and why it's amazing. So yes, equality for the fucking win! But that doesn't mean men are trash or the enemy or whatever else we're pushing in this post-2016 Election America.
Yes, our President is definitely a sexual predator and an all around garbage human. But in the same way women don't want to be judged with someone like Kim Kardashian as the standard, men don't want to be judged based on men little bitch ass dudes like Harvey Weinstein and 45.
Making the immediate assumption that a man only wants you for sex, or finds you inferior or anything of that nature based solely on the fact that he has a penis is no different than the treatment women receive based on their gender that we are so passionate about stopping.
Is this all on us as feminists? Well fuck no, but we have to learn to accept that men are EQUAL to women.
And hey, how about this crazy notion that all of us women are equal too?!? What?! You mean Sharon isn't a real feminist because she still shaves her armpits? WRONG. Sharon is a feminist because she believes in equality. Point blank, period.
If we really want to support other women, then let's do that! Don't shame me because I still like to paint my nails and dye my hair. Feminism has nothing to do with my desire to look cute. Sure maybe on some deep-seated level I am only doing this to impress a man, yadda yadda. But honestly, wanting to be girly in no way changes my values. I think we have gotten so caught up in making rules for feminism that we've forgotten what we're really trying to do here.
This also includes not disqualifying women as feminists because they proudly promote themselves as sluts, or hoes or any other terms referring to the fact that they own their sexuality. Slut-shaming or whatever you choose to call it is not you being a good feminist. If a woman chooses to be sexualized for money or attention or just her own satisfaction, that doesn't mean she isn't a feminist. I'll take it back to that simple notion that feminism revolves around, EQUALITY!
A female scholar is by no means more of a woman or feminist than a sex-worker, and vice-versa. As women, we need to not only include men in the conversations involving feminism, but also women who exist outside of our circles, belief structures, or socioeconomic statuses. So let's cut out the toxic-feminism once and for all and get with equality!
