When I was in high school, people told me that a loose vagina was a way to determine if a woman was slutty or promiscuous. Now, I've learned that just isn't true. I've learned that a loose vagina is the best vagina and I will gladly argue with anyone who tries to tell me otherwise. Here is why:

1. Loose vaginas are happy vaginas

The vagina is a muscle that is located between other muscles, which keeps it nice and tight. The main muscle is kind of like an elastic, think stress ball and when sexy times start happening, the vagina muscles loosen to allow intercourse. I mean, think about it: To keep our species alive we have to procreate, so our bodies naturally want to get some action up in there. Just like the vagina has natural lubricant, it also has a natural process to make penetrative intercourse easier. A loose vajayjay is a happy, sexually stimulated one.

2. More foreplay

Who doesn't love a little foreplay? I mean, anything you choose to do just adds to the mood whether that be a little dirty talk, some gentle rubbing, or kissing. Whatever you want to do, if you want fireworks, foreplay is important. It takes at least thirty minutes of sexual stimulation (that isn't actually sex) for the vagina to relax and get ready for the home run. So take those thirty minutes and really get to explore your lover.

3. I want my partner to enjoy me

Who doesn't want to be an excellent lover? Being great in the sack is definitely something to brag about and part of that is knowing how and when to please your lover. It takes both verbal and physical communication. I acknowledge and respect that my partner is at their most vulnerable state when they crawl into bed with me, and it's my duty to make sure their time is just as good as mine. It's always worth it to see my partner smiling next to me.

4. I'm against rape culture and sexism

All of the above reasons are great, but I think this really needs to be the take home message. We need to stop policing people's bodies and attaching ridiculous notions to them. Vaginas come in all different shapes, sizes and colors. Some might be more wide set or smaller than others but that has nothing to do with the woman's sexual history. Even giving birth is not an indicator that a vagina is loose or tight. Saying that you want a "tight vagina" is the same thing as saying that you want someone who isn't warmed up and ready for intercourse or saying you want someone who is anxious or nervous to have intercourse. It's disgusting, misogynistic and plain stupid.

When people engage in sex, it should be because they both want to and are ready to. They should walk away from the experience feeling good about themselves and needing an after sex shower because of sweat, not regret.

So, I'm proud to shout that I love loose vaginas and I hope you are too.