A little reminder to love yourself
As we all know and see everyday, todays society absolutely, without a doubt, sucks. The "perfect image" has been created for our generation to belittle themselves to the smallest point possible. This insane idea we had embedded into our minds that we all have to be a certain, height, weight, intelligence; along with perfect skin, always have our hair done, and flawless makeup. I for one, have fallen into the cracks of our society and used to refuse to leave my room, with my hair up and sweat-pants on. But as a college student, I learned very quickly how insane that all is. I have let my insecurities get the best of me, testing relationships and friendships, awhile letting my crazy mind grab a hold and take away what should really matter most.
"You are imperfect. Permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful" - Amy Bloom
What I never had understood as a girl, is why we all suck so bad. Like, we all want to feel good about our own self's, but at the same time, we are laughing at the girl who just had the guts to dye her hair blue. We, as a whole, want to feel so great about our own imperfections that we will, at any cost, laugh at the next girl who walks in. I don't believe, not one person is not guilty for doing this. Whether you are mentally judging or doing it out loud. Its just as evil.
As a whole (guys included), we need to understand that always there will be SOMEONE out there who is going to have something, that you don't have, and since you are a person, you are going to want it so badly that you will make yourself feel less for it. We all need to accept the fact that another girl is going to have perfect skin and seemingly perfect life, but maybe, what you don't see, is the same girl admiring you for your long hair or maybe the body you worked so hard to get. While at the same time, to make your self feel so superior, you are so quick to judge someone who has some acne or a bad hair day, just to build yourself up. And that makes no sense to me.
As, people, and young adults, we are all the same, we have the same struggles. Between trying so hard to fit in, classes and worrying about money. As much as we want to blame society and the images that they leave out there for us to see, we are society. We take those ideas to our head and use them to bash somebody else. Looking at another person and taking a quality of them and judging it, should be the least of your worries. These are supposed to be the best years of our lives, before the real world hits. And some of our main focus is left on other people, and the ideal image for ourselves. We are all people, we all have feelings, so take that into consideration next time you want to belittle yourself.
For the next time that you don't feel good enough in your own skin, or even for other people, always remember and know that you are. No matter how little you have to try, someone is going to accept and be proud of you. But before you let anyone else see that, accept yourself and don't let your mind consume the remembrance to love yourself, and be proud of the skin you're in, every single day.
