We have all been through break ups, and we all know that they are not easy. We have all had friendships that end unexpectedly. When those relationships do end out of the blue, we fail to get the closure that we need. When there is no resolution, we begin to overthink and slowly start to lose our minds over what we did wrong. We wonder what we did that caused the friendship to dwindle or what we did not do to make the other person happy enough to stay. Whatever the case, getting closure is important, and when we do not end on a good note, it takes a lot longer to get over whatever it may be.
Relationships that end unexpectedly can take a toll on your mind and body — especially when you see the other person on campus on a regular basis. You tell yourself that you will get over it and everything will eventually be okay, but then this thing called life causes you to see the person you did not want to see at the worst times. Whether it's at the gym, at your favorite restaurant on campus or walking to class, you just can't escape them. You try your hardest not to say hello or stop to ask why you two stopped talking, then later go home and overthink yourself into anxiety.
Not receiving closure sounds so cliche. "Getting closure" sounds like something you hear in a stereotypical teen romance movie, but in reality, it's more than that. Closure is important for your psyche, and we all need it in order to get on with our lives and be more positive people. However, there are people out there who will hurt you and fail to swallow their pride and give you the closure you deserve. When this happens, it is important to understand that if it is meant to be, it will be, and there is no need to over think. Sounds easy, right? Not over thinking. It may be hard, but I promise that it is doable. It is up to you to be the better person and understand that it just didn't work out. Though your friend may be stubborn and completely remove you out of their life without an explanation, it is crucial you surround yourself with people you love and who care for you, because at the end of the day, true friends will be there for you, along with one other person — yourself.
Taking care of yourself while going through tough times is more important than anything else. YOU are what matters here, and although the other person is probably hurting too, they will most likely wish they would have given you a reason for all of this pain. However, life goes on; you meet new people and make new friends along the way. People come and go, but that's the beauty of life itself. You have the chance to make someone's day or change someone's life just like someone has the ability to do so for you. Whether they continue to stick around or leave unexpectedly, a piece of them will stick with you forever, and that's what is important to remember.
So they didn't give you the ending you had hoped for, but they did make you stronger and teach you a lesson or two; that's what happens when you don't get closure. You get better.
