To The Person Who Cares Too Much

To The Person Who Cares Too Much

When does it come to the point of caring too much?
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One of the qualities we all want people to know us as is caring. We are supportive of others, we help them in times of need, and would do anything for them. Most people can say they at least have one person they do those three things for. I am the type of person that cares way too much. This can be a good and a bad thing. The way and amount of care you provide for someone shows the amount of love in your heart. Just as Winnie the Pooh says, "Some people care too much, I think it's called love". I want people to see me as someone they can lean on when life is not going the right way for them. A friend that they can trust when they are needing someone to talk to.

I feel like I am that friend but there are times when I feel like I maybe care too much. I will stick my neck out for someone who wouldn't even do the same for me. You go above and beyond for your friends sometimes without even thinking just because you would do anything for them. So you would expect them to do the same thing for you right?

Well, that doesn't happen all the time and you are left so upset. You wonder why you still put forth the effort into the relationship/friendship. It's because you care. You love them and that is just the person you are. We should not have to apologize for this or change the way we are. We think to ourselves that we are done putting forth all of this effort for people who may not deserve it. But you know what happens? We don't stop. We keep putting all of our heart into the people who could care less to have it. I have been through this situation too many times to count. I put everything into the relationships in my life. No matter who it is.

I have learned through the years that you can't please everyone no matter how hard you may want to. There are times when I believe that caring too much is a bad thing. In some situations, it can be. There are some people who are not meant to be in your life. You will figure that out one day who those individuals are. If the time comes that you realize "I have cared too much for this person when they could care less about me," let them go.

That is my advice. It could be the hardest decision to make but maybe it is for the best. If all they do is cause you pain and suffering, why continue to put yourself through that? We all deserve to have people in our lives that care so much about us too. A relationship/friendship takes two people to work, not just one. The next time you are feeling like you care too much for a person, stop and think about how they treat you for one. Two, how will you leaving their life affect them? If you think it would not make much of a difference, then don't think twice just leave. As Eleanor Roosevelt says, "We are afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all". Consider the people in your life and decide if they are really meant to be there.

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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.
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Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.


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To My Best Friend's Mom, Who Was Also Like A Mother To Me, Too

I'd like to start with thank you.

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I'd like to start with thank you.

Thank you for the countless times you included and supported me, from a young age to the current day. Thank you for always packing an extra snack, including me in weekend events and not getting mad when we'd forget to ask if we could have a sleepover. Thank you for treating me like one of your own, and always making me feel welcome. Thank you for always welcoming up your home, for carting me around on family vacations and for always being a shoulder to cry on or an extra person to sit and listen. Oh, and thank you for not getting mad that one time I broke the doorknob.

You played just as important role in my life growing up, as my own family, and I'm incredibly thankful for that.

I'll never for the first time we just "assumed" it was okay I spent the night. It was 10 pm on a Friday and we were spending our time like any other night distracted by our laptops, iPhones or some drama that happened at school earlier in the day. Finally, you came in to see what was going on and when you asked if we "had a question to ask you" all we could think to ask was if we could order pizza. Fast forward a year or two later and this would become the norm.

We'd spend countless hours outside on the trampoline, playing just dance in the living room and making our "famous" Mac and cheese or cheese quesadillas. You always went out of your way to make me feel accepted and even made sure the burgers off the grill didn't have any grill lines. You know, because this clearly meant that they were burnt.

You put up with my nonsense requests and always made sure they were at least acknowledged (no matter how ridiculous).After high school graduation our lives were clearly changing, and so was the friendship not only between my best friend and I but between you and I. We had grown and experiences many different life events together. What once was a nurturing and caring bond between us became as mutual adult friendship, and since then there was no looking backTo celebrate college graduation you helped us plan our trip to Disney and universal and attended it yourself.

The last time we took this trip her and I were mere juniors and high school, and now able to have drinks by the pool he dynamics were changing.

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