To The Person Who Cares Too Much

To The Person Who Cares Too Much

When does it come to the point of caring too much?
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One of the qualities we all want people to know us as is caring. We are supportive of others, we help them in times of need, and would do anything for them. Most people can say they at least have one person they do those three things for. I am the type of person that cares way too much. This can be a good and a bad thing. The way and amount of care you provide for someone shows the amount of love in your heart. Just as Winnie the Pooh says, "Some people care too much, I think it's called love". I want people to see me as someone they can lean on when life is not going the right way for them. A friend that they can trust when they are needing someone to talk to.

I feel like I am that friend but there are times when I feel like I maybe care too much. I will stick my neck out for someone who wouldn't even do the same for me. You go above and beyond for your friends sometimes without even thinking just because you would do anything for them. So you would expect them to do the same thing for you right?

Well, that doesn't happen all the time and you are left so upset. You wonder why you still put forth the effort into the relationship/friendship. It's because you care. You love them and that is just the person you are. We should not have to apologize for this or change the way we are. We think to ourselves that we are done putting forth all of this effort for people who may not deserve it. But you know what happens? We don't stop. We keep putting all of our heart into the people who could care less to have it. I have been through this situation too many times to count. I put everything into the relationships in my life. No matter who it is.

I have learned through the years that you can't please everyone no matter how hard you may want to. There are times when I believe that caring too much is a bad thing. In some situations, it can be. There are some people who are not meant to be in your life. You will figure that out one day who those individuals are. If the time comes that you realize "I have cared too much for this person when they could care less about me," let them go.

That is my advice. It could be the hardest decision to make but maybe it is for the best. If all they do is cause you pain and suffering, why continue to put yourself through that? We all deserve to have people in our lives that care so much about us too. A relationship/friendship takes two people to work, not just one. The next time you are feeling like you care too much for a person, stop and think about how they treat you for one. Two, how will you leaving their life affect them? If you think it would not make much of a difference, then don't think twice just leave. As Eleanor Roosevelt says, "We are afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all". Consider the people in your life and decide if they are really meant to be there.

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Platonic Relationships Are Just As Valid As Romantic Relationships

Your platonic friends deserve just as much love.
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When people think of "relationships," they often think of two people who are in love and are dating; and often the things that come with it like flowers, chocolates, and dinner dates.

Society likes to tell the world that their lives will not be worth living unless they are in a romantic relationship, and it makes young teenagers feel insecure because they don't have a significant other. This can be a harmful mindset to have because nobody should feel insecure about not having a significant other. However, everyone should feel grateful for platonic love.

There have been many articles all over the internet entitled things like "Can a man and a woman be just friends?" and in my humble and honest opinion, I think those are some of the dumbest articles ever to be written on the internet.

All I could think to myself was "of course a man and a woman can be just friends! Are these articles for real?" I just couldn't stomach what many of these articles were saying, because in many ways, being in a platonic relationship can be just as rewarding, if not more, as being in a romantic relationship.

The simple truth is, a guy and a girl can be friends; but since society pushes romantic relationships on everyone like it's nobody's business, many people, especially teenagers, dismiss platonic love as "nothing special," and feel bad whenever they don't have a romantic partner in their lives. It has made a negative impact on our society because of this, and this is the type of thought that desperately needs to be unlearned by all.

Having a romantic partner is not a bad thing by any means. I love seeing my friends in happy romantic relationships with people they love. It really does make me happy. What bugs me is how many people don't value platonic love in the same way, when it deserves just as much value as romantic love. I don't like seeing singles being bitter about seeing happy couples everywhere because they don't have a significant other of their own. What I'm trying to say is that whether you're in a romantic relationship or not, the relationships you have with your platonic friends are just as valid.

And if you don't have a significant other, that's perfectly okay. You are not any less valid just because you're not in a romantic relationship. Having platonic friends are just as valid, and your relationships with them are just as valid and should be valued. Whether someone is in a romantic relationship or not, everyone has platonic relationships, and they deserve just as much love and value as romantic ones.

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Yes, You're Still 100 Percent My Best Friend Even Though You Go To A Different College

I can always count on you.
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Dear You,

Our first year of college is closely coming to an end, and let me tell you, it has been different without you by my side. There's always things that I see go on around campus here and think to myself that I wish you were there to see it. It's crazy how we went from seeing each other every day to maybe once or twice every 3 months.

You have helped me through some of the lowest points in my life and I'll forever be grateful for that. I can truly count on you for anything. You know exactly how to cheer me up and how to make me laugh when I'm feeling down. You have made me want to be apart of this earth.

I miss our dates to the beach, going to the park and watching the sunset, grabbing snow-cones and so much more. However, I already know that once summer comes again, we will be able to experience all of those again. We have so many memories throughout our life together that I know I'll cherish forever. I can't thank you enough for the endless laughs and smiles. Thank you for blaring and enjoying the same music as much as I do. Thank you for letting our friendship still remain this strong even though we are 200 something miles apart.

You're the type of friend who I want in my life for eternity. I can't wait to have you by my side as one of my bridesmaids when I eventually get married. I know I will be telling my kids all about you in the future on how great of a friend you were to me and hopefully you'll be there to be apart of their lives as well. I already know wherever we end up in our future, I'll always have a piece of you in my heart with me at all times. I love you with all that I have and already am counting down the days until I see you next.

Love,

Your Best Friend (Lerx, Alex, Liz, Alexis)

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