We all have those few people in our lives who don't know how to be supportive of others.
They make us feel like the bad guys. They talk about people. They refuse to be happy for anyone. Do they really think it's okay? I honestly couldn't tell you the answer.
No matter what good fortunes come someone's way, they find a way to overshadow or completely ignore those happy times.
They never want to genuinely hear about someone else's day. It's always about them.
Sound familiar?
Being happy for someone takes such little effort. Being mean, aggressive, and unsupportive takes significantly more effort and is completely unnecessary.
It takes a lot of hate in someone's heart to purposely make others feel inferior, worthless, and unloved.
What's sad, though, is that sometimes it isn't even on purpose. They've gotten so used to hurting others, they don't even realize they're doing it. And that's what they do. They hurt others. They refuse to be happy for the people around them. If it's not about them, they don't care.
Still sound familiar?
Honestly, these people suck.
I hope that in 2017, these people will learn to love endlessly, care genuinely, and realize how their selfish actions affect others.
I hope that the individuals affected by these unsupportive people will begin to see that their actions are only motivated by insecurity or jealousy.
If you're someone dealing with people like this, here's my advice:
More often than not, their actions are not a reflection of you, but of them.
Do not become complacent or learn to just "deal with it." Do not let them affect your happiness, either.
Don't let them win.
Instead, let them be a lesson. Allow them to show you how not to treat others. And, whatever you do, do not treat them like they treat you.
It can be tempting to give them a "taste of their own medicine," but it will not help anything. In fact, it will only make the situation worse.
Real friends and loyal family will always ask how your day was, will genuinely listen, will never make you feel like what you're saying isn't important, and will always make sure you feel loved. Real friends and loyal family will care. They will not be wishy-washy in their love for you.
So, if you think or know that you're one of these people, I hope you find it in your heart to change in 2017. For your sake and those around, I hope you change.
If you're someone dealing with these types of people -- whether at work, in friend groups, or among family -- I hope you realize that it is not your fault. It has never been your fault.
You can love them. You can pray for them. But do not let them affect you any longer.
