To The Ones That Wish They Could Get Away

To The Ones That Wish They Could Get Away

You don't belong anywhere but where you are now.

We all crave a sense of belonging, whether it be in your family, friend group, college, workplace, or neighborhood. The ability we have been given to experience this life as we do is an amazing gift which we often take for granted.

But what if you don't feel satisfied where you currently exist?

What if you feel, for some reason, "anywhere else but here" may be better?

What if you feel as if you just don't belong?

These some of the perplexing thoughts that have entered in and out of my mind, day after day, since I was young.

Although I was very fortunately given a comfortable life growing up and a phenomenal support system I am more than thankful for, I'm still occasionally overwhelmed with the curiosity of what it would be like if I grew up elsewhere, or if I was someone else.

No matter your own personal walk of life, I believe these feelings exist in many of us, especially young people. These feelings seemingly weigh even heavier when it's not necessarily practical to just move away and start a new life elsewhere, or travel to your dream city.

I've always dreamed of traveling all over the world. And I know that if I put my mind to it, I can make it happen someday. But what about today? Right now?

If I'm constantly wishing I was somewhere else, how can I ever learn to be content where I currently am?

This is a question that I began to ask myself. As I've grown older, I realize the desire to be elsewhere only attracts misery and negativity to my current state of being. It encourages self-doubt and a pessimistic outlook on my surroundings. This has reoccurred throughout my life, and it definitely hit hard when I started college.

However, I've decided to take a different approach to dealing with these feelings. I recently read a book my dad gave to me a while ago, one that I highly recommend to anyone looking for guidance on finding meaning and purpose in this life.

In "A Man's Search For Meaning," Dr. Frankl writes, "Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms — to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way." If you haven't read the book, this is one of many insightful remarks written from this man's experience in a concentration camp during the Holocaust.

I love this quote because it constantly reminds me that this life will be what I make it. I don't want to live in misery, or feel sorry for myself, just because I long to be "elsewhere." I get to choose my attitude and mindset about the position I am in and focus on the here and now.

As I change my mindset, I notice a shift in the awareness of my reality as well. Every day holds new opportunities for us as long as we are willing to accept them. If you are constantly focused on where you would rather be, you may miss out what's happening right in front of you.

No matter where you are, find something that you enjoy or excites you. Use a creative outlet, whether it be music, art, or writing. Go out, even when you don't want to. You can even save up money and plan that dream trip. You can choose to let the misery cause you to be despondent and have a dismal attitude towards your surroundings, or you can strive for self-improvement and growth no matter where you are.

I choose the latter.

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The 15 Terrifyingly Inevitable Stages Of The 'Sunday Scaries,' A College Horror Story

"...not to mention the false promise we've made to ourselves to never go out again... yeah right"

Before college, it was unheard of to put so much emphasis on Sundays but once that first Sunday hit me, right smack in the middle of my undergrad career, I knew. It's true what they say: once you know, you know. The Sunday scaries are real and I've lived through them a countless number of times.

1. "Waking up".

I put quotations on waking up because this won't be the first time you wake up. The Sunday scaries requires you to "wake up" at least three different times and within the various times, you'll wake up groggier than the last.

2. Waking up for the last time.

Who's to say when you'll get to bed for the night but this "last time" you'll be waking up to attack the day that is just complete torture.

3. The spins.

If you thought you had the spins at Toms just a mere few hours ago, then think again. Although these put a different kind of spin to things (pun intended), said spins will make you rethink going out next Tuesday... or really ever again.

4. Getting in contact with the rest of the fallen soldiers.

Actively reaching out to your friends via back-to-back texts, inquiring on whether or not they're alive is all part of the process.

5. Deciding if it's still breakfast.

Entirely dependent on the time in which we "wake up", it'll be another hour or so until everyone decides on whether or not it's still appropriate to eat omelets, home fries and sides of Bloody Marys and mimosas for lunch.

6. Having certain realizations throughout breakfast/brunch/lunch (or whatever we're calling it now).

By certain realizations I mean who the guy was that our friend snuck home with again, how many slices of pizza we had this time and if said number of slices went down easy or not.

7. Am I hungry again or do I just have to use the bathroom?

Honestly, the decision alone is only half the battle.

8. Yup, we're hungry again.

Regardless of what the final decision was, the next step is always hunger.

9. Sitting in front of our black screen of a laptop.

"Doing homework" all the while repeating the recap of the total debauchery that was this past weekend for the 12th time.

10. The scaries are now in full effect (if they weren't already).

Frantically sifting through our planners in front of a big, cold cup of green tea that we had no intention of ever finishing. "We have like, 2 exams, a presentation, two papers due and a group meeting all on the same day... who let us go out these past two nights!?"

11. Mac n cheese as a nightcap.

Immediately after we've come to terms with the impending doom to come, we settle our upset stomachs with whatever grease encrusted foods we can get our un-showered hands on. One can never go wrong with a pot of boxed mac n cheese.

12. Getting our last minute affairs together.

Throw up for the fourth time? Check. Take your third catnap of the day? Check. Shed a few tears over the piles of crop tops and distressed jeans all over our bedroom floor? Check.

13. Setting our fifty alarms.

Although we absolutely don't want to, there we go setting alarms for our 10:05's the following morning, whether or not it's through a face full of tears because of the scaries.

14. Staring into the darkness that is our room after lights out.

Not to mention the utter darkness that is the week ahead.

15. The finale of the scaries.

The moment we thought would never come: hair tied in that weird bun on the top of our heads, no pants and the biggest t-shirt we own.

The few hours of peacefulness we've managed to salvage (and not to mention the false promise we've made to ourselves to never go out again... yeah right).

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