To The Ones That Wish They Could Get Away

To The Ones That Wish They Could Get Away

You don't belong anywhere but where you are now.
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We all crave a sense of belonging, whether it be in your family, friend group, college, workplace, or neighborhood. The ability we have been given to experience this life as we do is an amazing gift which we often take for granted.

But what if you don't feel satisfied where you currently exist?

What if you feel, for some reason, "anywhere else but here" may be better?

What if you feel as if you just don't belong?

These some of the perplexing thoughts that have entered in and out of my mind, day after day, since I was young.

Although I was very fortunately given a comfortable life growing up and a phenomenal support system I am more than thankful for, I'm still occasionally overwhelmed with the curiosity of what it would be like if I grew up elsewhere, or if I was someone else.

No matter your own personal walk of life, I believe these feelings exist in many of us, especially young people. These feelings seemingly weigh even heavier when it's not necessarily practical to just move away and start a new life elsewhere, or travel to your dream city.

I've always dreamed of traveling all over the world. And I know that if I put my mind to it, I can make it happen someday. But what about today? Right now?

If I'm constantly wishing I was somewhere else, how can I ever learn to be content where I currently am?

This is a question that I began to ask myself. As I've grown older, I realize the desire to be elsewhere only attracts misery and negativity to my current state of being. It encourages self-doubt and a pessimistic outlook on my surroundings. This has reoccurred throughout my life, and it definitely hit hard when I started college.

However, I've decided to take a different approach to dealing with these feelings. I recently read a book my dad gave to me a while ago, one that I highly recommend to anyone looking for guidance on finding meaning and purpose in this life.

In "A Man's Search For Meaning," Dr. Frankl writes, "Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms — to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way." If you haven't read the book, this is one of many insightful remarks written from this man's experience in a concentration camp during the Holocaust.

I love this quote because it constantly reminds me that this life will be what I make it. I don't want to live in misery, or feel sorry for myself, just because I long to be "elsewhere." I get to choose my attitude and mindset about the position I am in and focus on the here and now.

As I change my mindset, I notice a shift in the awareness of my reality as well. Every day holds new opportunities for us as long as we are willing to accept them. If you are constantly focused on where you would rather be, you may miss out what's happening right in front of you.

No matter where you are, find something that you enjoy or excites you. Use a creative outlet, whether it be music, art, or writing. Go out, even when you don't want to. You can even save up money and plan that dream trip. You can choose to let the misery cause you to be despondent and have a dismal attitude towards your surroundings, or you can strive for self-improvement and growth no matter where you are.

I choose the latter.

Cover Image Credit: Madison Skye Howell

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14 Fraternity Guy Gifts Ideas, Since He Already Has Enough Beer

Frat boys are a species of their own and here are some exciting gifts they will be ecstatic to receive!

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What more do frat boys love than alcohol, partying, and just acting stupid? Here are some gifts that help fulfill all of those needs for the frat boy in your life!

1. Beer holster belt

Whats better than one beer? Six beers! This fashionable camouflage accessory can be used for tailgates, beach days, formals and everything in between.

Price: $8.49 (one pack), $14.99 (two pack)

2. Phone juul holder 

You know those cardholders everyone sticks on the back of their phones? Well, now a Juul holder for your phone is on the market! This will save your favorite frat boy from ever again losing his Juul!

Price: $10.98

3. Animal house poster 

This Animal House poster is a classic staple for any frat boy. This poster will compliment any frat house decor or lack thereof.

Price: $1.95

4. The American Fraternity book

Does the frat boy in your life need a good read for Thanksgiving or winter break? Look no farther, this will certainly keep his attention and give him a history lesson on American fraternity heritage and tradition.

Price: $28.46

5. Beer pong socks 

These snazzy socks featuring beer pong will be loved by any frat boy. As for the way to any frat boy's heart may, in fact, be beer pong.

Price: $12.00

6. Condom case

This condom carrying case will not only protect condoms from damage but also make frat boys more inclined to practice safe sex, which is a win-win situation!

Price: $9.99

7. Frat house candle

Ahhh yes, who does not like the smell of stale beer in a dark, musty frat house basement? Frat boys can make their apartment or bedroom back home smell like their favorite place with the help of this candle.

Price: $16.99

8. "Frat" sticker

Frat boys always need to make sure everyone around them knows just how "fratty" they are. This versatile stick can go on a laptop, car, water bottle, or practically anywhere their little hearts desire.

Price: $6.50

9. Natty Light t-shirt 

Even I will admit that this shirt is pretty cool. The frat boy in your life will wear this shirt at every possible moment, it is just that cool!

Price: $38.76-$41.11

10. Natty light fanny pack 

This fanny pack can absolutely be rocked by any frat boy. The built-in koozie adds a nice touch.

Price: $21.85

11. Bud Light Neon Beer Sign 

A neon beer sign will be the perfect addition to any frat boys bedroom.

Price: $79.99

12. Beer Opener

Although most frat boys' go to beers come in cans, this bottle opener will be useful for those special occasions when they buy nicer bottled beers.

Price: $7.99

13. Frat House Dr. Sign

Price: $13.99

Forget stealing random street signs, with this gift frat boys no longer have to do so.

14. Beer Lights 

Lights are an essential for any party and these will surely light up even the lamest parties.

Price: $17.19

Please note that prices are accurate and items in stock as of the time of publication. As an Amazon Associate, Odyssey may earn a portion of qualifying sales.

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Being Busy Is A Blessing

Are you feeling thankful for your stress today?

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"Steady as a clock, busy as a bee, cheerful as a cricket." – Martha Washington

In American society, we pride ourselves on our busyness. How many projects we have to juggle at work, how many activities and hobbies we're involved in, how many events we have to prepare for. We love being busy.

Yet, seldom do we take a step back and realize how lucky we are to be so busy.

We love to boast, brag, and compare scars on how much stress we're under. Competitions over who got the least amount of sleep, who has the most deadlines, or who is involved in the most organizations. We complain about how exhausted we are, we sneer at those who have less on their plate than us, and we can't help but second-guess ourselves when we have a day free of any responsibilities.

Have you ever thought about how fortunate you are to be so busy? Think of all the stressors in your life currently – maybe it's school, work, family, romantic relationships. Think of what it is that is taking up so much of your time to make you so busy. In my case, that would be school. Final exams, deadlines, papers, and group projects are nearly swallowing me whole. I seldom talk about much else with my peers.

But, taking a step back from all the stress, I realize that I am so lucky to be so busy. I'm getting an education – something not everyone can say for themselves. I have a roof over my head, a bed to lie in, clothes to keep me warm, and food to nourish my body. On top of all my essentials being more than taken care of, I have the privilege of going to class every day and working towards a degree. How lucky I am to be stressed and busy.

This is not meant to make you feel guilty for the blessings in your life, nor to minimize your stress and anxiety. Your stress is still perfectly valid, especially as a college student. But, it can be rewarding and stress alleviating to take a minute and observe what it is you are stressed over. Grades, projects at work, spats with co-workers or friends, or missing deadlines are all temporary stressors. Those things will pass. Think of the relief you feel when you finally finish that one project. Or the free time that comes as a result of meeting that one deadline. Or even how happy and accomplished you may feel when you have so many healthy priorities filling your life.

Being busy is a blessing. It's not always fulfilling, and it's not always free of stress. But it is a privilege to have a life full of things to do and people to see.

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