To the girls who question their worth,
You are more than just being good enough.
These are 7 things I wish someone would have told me, and they probably did but I had to realize on my own.
1. Your clothing size nor your looks define the amount of love you have in your heart.
From a size 00 to 18 everyone struggles with trying on clothes and the way clothes fit. So, rock your favorite outfit because it makes you feel good. Wear it for you not for someone else. Plus you don't need nor do you need to show off big boobs and a nice butt to get a guys attention. Don't get anxiety over shaving and start walking around with no make up on. No one is perfect and many things, us girls, worry about are because of our society's standards. For example: Our society says girls look way better with make up on however our society also says girls who wear to much make up are fake. Its a double standard and can also be very confusing.
2. A boy does not get to decide the love you deserved.
Just because a boy does not realize what he has in front of him doesn't mean someone else wont. You can think you love someone and then realize you don't truthfully know that person. People and interest change but someone will love you for you. Ladies, having to show some extra skin for a guys attention is not love its lust.
3. Your twerking skills do not define your sexiness.
Don't stand in the corner of the dance floor just because you don't or don't think you have "sexy" moves. Dance your heart out and the people who love you for you wont care about the fact that you cant twerk or cant dance. Honestly, don't be scared to dance at all. Do what makes you happy and you get to dictate whos opinion matters.
4.Just because your parents or someone you know is divorced doesn't mean you wont find love.
Let people in your life and trust them. Someone else's love story is not yours. Everyone is different in their opinions, backgrounds and experiences. I personally know at least 10 people who found their spouse after reaching 25 or got married after their 30th birthday. Things happen for a reason.
5. Just because you aren't where you want to be doesn't mean you wont get there.
Nothing comes free you have to work hard, and surround yourself with people who will bring you up in life. Support is a major key to success. My MACO 101 college professor, Dr. Martin says, "wealthy people are wealthy because they read books about other wealthy people".
6.You can be just friends with a boy.
Just because you hangout with a specific boy a lot does not mean you guys have to date. You should go eat out, or go to a football game together and not feel pressured to be anything more than friends. If you end up having feelings, no biggie but don't feel pressured. Everyone deserves to have someone to confide in.
7. Sometimes you just have to let people go.
Let the people who are always negative go. The people who always use you instead of helping you. The boy who cant make up his mind. Let him go. Let go of the friend who only hangs out with you when it benefits them. You are amazing and you don't need people who will tear you down.
You are not just good enough. You are so much more.
Good enough to accomplish anything you want despite what others may say. You control your own happiness.