If you’re a millennial girl who’s ever dealt with the heartbreak and disappointment of a guy you thought could potentially be the one, then listen up. The more time you spend being sad, the more time you are wasting.
We’ve all been there. You meet a guy, spend a lot of time together, catch feelings, and then have it thrown right back in your face as if it meant absolutely nothing to him. The next few stages involve you laying in bed until 3 in the afternoon, watching sappy romance movies while eating your bodyweight in your favorite Ben & Jerry's ice cream flavor. And while most girls think this is the cure to getting over a boy, it's actually a huge waste of time.
That's because, in the end, it’s his loss
While it might not feel like it now, whatever boy who broke your heart will eventually realize he fucked up big time. Give it a few weeks until your out of your post-breakup funk and he sees you out having the time of your life with your friends. He’ll immediately have second thoughts, but remember, he lost his chance. While initially, it may have felt like a huge loss in your life, you ultimately are the one that got away in his eyes. Don’t go running back.
He wasn’t ready for the commitment of a relationship anyway.
The sad but most definite truth of our generation is that boys are about a good five years behind girls when it comes to maturity. Let’s be real, most girls have been planning their wedding since five-years-old while most boys are currently concerned about the next time they can play "Fortnite." Boys, on the other hand, embrace their years of sliding in DMs, late-night booty calling, and hitting up girls at 3 A.M. with that “wyd” Snapchat. This is what our generation has become, and the only way to cope and understand it is to accept it. So girls, don’t be in a rush to find “the one” because the truth of the matter is, your “one” is probably still hitting up the thot he met last weekend.
Plus, you have much bigger issues to worry about.
What most girls don’t understand is that right now is the time to figure out our own shit before having to stress about someone else’s issues as well. Doing well in school, finding that summer internship, and fulfilling your friendships should most definitely be enough to consume most of our time during this part of our lives, so why are you on the hunt for a boyfriend? We have plenty of time before we commit to someone so loosen up and stop stressing out about how you’re still single.
These are the best years to be single.
We are now entering our twenties. Scary, but true. Whoever said high school is the best four years of our life clearly didn’t know what they were talking about. Our twenties come along with a whole lot of freedom, independence, and a hell of a lot of fun. So stop being upset that you don’t have a boyfriend. Boyfriends are for our thirties.
You’re a boss, with or without a man.
I hate how girls measure their self-worth by how they think boys view them. You are still the same amazing person you were before that fuckboy messed with your head, and don’t forget it. You can do absolutely anything you put your mind to. The time for a boyfriend will come on its own. Shouldn’t we want to become the best versions of ourselves before committing to a whole other person? Learning to love is impossible if you can’t learn to love yourself first.
So, forget about the idiot who was too blind to see how special you truly are. Girls, we are all in this together and learning to appreciate, respect, and love ourselves will only be the first step in reversing the way our generation acts and thinks. Boys will follow, as they always do.
