To the girl with the broken heart:

First I want to say you’re allowed to cry, it’s normal to be mad and it’s okay to not be okay. Your heart was broken by someone you saw a future with, someone you opened up to and someone you fell in love with. It’s completely normal to be upset.

I understand how hard it is right now and I know the pain of what you’re going through -- the late nights reminiscing of what used to be and all the times he made you smile, your fondest memories together and crying quietly to yourself in bed so that no one hears your breakdown.

You’re mad at the world for totally turning upside down on you so suddenly, and you’re mad at the boy who broke your heart. But I want to tell you something, it gets better, much better.

For starters, you get to be selfish now, you only have to worry about yourself and how you are doing. You’re in school and instead of completely missing the lecture in class because you’re trying to text him, you can actually engaged in class and score brownie points for participation with your professor.

You won’t feel guilty when you talk to a guy in the elevator about the weather or to the guy who sits next to you in class.

When you come home for break you'll actually look forward to seeing your family and friends instead of stressing about the times you won’t get to hang out with him.

You get to be more independent and make decisions for yourself instead of decisions with his influence.

Although the wall that was down for so long is back up once again, it could be a good thing, you just don' know it yet. Having that wall up keeps your heart safe. This was a learning process for you, a sucky one I understand, but now know what you’re looking for.

Remember that even when you go through a tough time like a breakup, your family and friends are always going to be there no matter what. They will be there for you and will always have your back. As cheesy as it sounds, they do want the best for you and you should know you can always count on them. Friends and family are the greatest support systems so never take for granted the kind of relationship you have with them.

Even though it does get better, it’s not going to be overnight, it’s going to take time. Give yourself time to grieve and time to move on. Honestly, it’s a roller coaster of emotions where you’ll feel as confident as can be one day and an emotional wreck the next and that’s okay. Don’t ever feel like you are crazy or too emotional. This isn’t your fault and you are an amazing woman who is going to do amazing things. There is so much more to life than this boy who was stupid enough to let you go. There is so much more to learn, so many more people you will meet and so many more incredible experiences to come.

Everything happens for a reason which means there is someone even better out there for you. Don’t let this bring you down, you are one of kind and someone one day is going to make you the happiest you’ve ever been, but for now, you just gotta do you girl.

Sincerely,

A girl who understands