Today's society puts entirely too much pressure on our generation when it comes to dating. In high school, and even middle school, if you're not hanging out with the "cool kids," talking to guys, and dabbling in relationships, it seems as if you're destined to be alone. I can assure you that is most definitely not the case. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to date, or just simply being one of those girls that aren't usually approached by guys. It doesn't mean you are inadequate, unattractive, unintelligent, or anything that may come to your mind. I'm 20-years-old and I've had my fair share of moments trying to convince myself that I would never be good enough for anyone. I've yet to find the right guy, and as much as I want to continue stressing about it, I know that the Lord will bring me the right man at the right time. There are just a few things that I want to say to any girl who is struggling with that.

1. God has a plan for everything, including your relationships.

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

God has a plan for absolutely everything, and sometimes you may wonder what it is because it seems entirely unclear to you. The truth is you don't have to see it, you just need to trust that the Lord is good and faithful and that He truly knows your heart. There are points in our life where having a relationship wouldn't necessarily mean that it would be fruitful. I came to school this semester thinking I'd have it all-- wonderful friends, straight A's, and finally find the right guy. My plans were clearly not the Lord's, and I'm glad I see that now. It took my grades plummeting to an all time low for me to realize that the Lord made His plan evident to me a while ago, I was just too distracted to see it. The Lord brought me here to Virginia Tech because this is where I'm meant to be, and I have to succeed in the reason I was brought here before anything else can happen. I know if I tried to have a relationship, it wouldn't be one I would be satisfied with because it wouldn't be a fruitful one. There's a time and place for everything, including relationships, in God's plan for you.

2. God made you adequate and beautiful, no matter what anyone else says.

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you." Song of Songs 4:7

You are beautiful in every way. What you see in the mirror is the creature that God created in His image, and it is flawless. Every single one of us was created uniquely, and we are all beautiful in our own way. So what if you're not a size 2. So what if your teeth aren't perfectly straight. So what if you think your laugh is really obnoxious. All of these things perfectly describe me, but I know that there isn't one single person in the world exactly like me. To know I'm so unique that there's only one of me is incredible, and all of the special quirks and things I do make me beautiful. Every person on this earth was designed with features that only they have, and no one can take that away from you. There are some days I change my outfit countless times because I feel they're all "unflattering." But I then look at this verse from Song of Songs that's hanging on my wall and know that the clothes, the makeup, how I do my hair, none of that will change the beauty that I was designed to show.

3. Don't settle for anything less than you deserve.

Do not settle for a boy, you want a man. You want a man who will pursue you to the ends of the earth. You want a man who has sought after the Lord with his whole heart. A man that has found himself, and then will find you. A man that sees every little detail that God put in you when He created you and loves every part of you. As you continue to seek the Lord you will become a more Godly woman, and then the Godly man the Lord has made for you will find his way to you. Focus on your path with the Lord. The story of Ruth and Boaz is very much how a Godly relationship should start. Ruth didn't know who Boaz was and she didn't think she'd ever meet anyone like him. She just trusted in the Lord and obeyed what He asked of her. Boaz was struck by Ruth's selflessness and willingness to follow the Lord with all of her heart. Wait for the man who sees you as Boaz saw Ruth.

Your walk with Christ will be a light to all of those around you, regardless of whether or not you're in a relationship yet. Find passion in your life and share it with others around you. Continue to love the Lord with all of your heart and continue to love others as He loves you. Continue to trust that the Lord is good and faithful, that He knows your heart, and that His plan is the best above all other things. Realize that you are beautiful in the eyes of the Lord, and realize how important you are to Him.