To The Girl Who Doesn't Think She's Pretty

To The Girl Who Doesn't Think She's Pretty

You are wrong.

When I was younger, I remember constantly asking my mom if I was pretty. I asked her at least once a week growing up. I could tell she was annoyed most of the time, but she always answered the same way.

“Of course, Katie, you are gorgeous!”

I don’t have to ask her anymore if I’m pretty because I know what the answer will be.

When I was still in this phase of asking her all time, one Christmas she made me a blanket. The fabric had cartoon doll-like characters doing their hair and makeup. All over the fabric it said, “Gorgeous!”

My mom told me she made it for me so that I would always remember what she thought I am.

I still have the blanket today. I, of course, still have those moments where I want to ask if I’m pretty because I don’t believe that I am.

I know that not every little girl is lucky enough to have a mom who tells them that they’re pretty. I even know that there are some moms that criticize their daughter’s appearance, and this breaks my heart.

Now, I know that being pretty isn’t the only characteristic that is important to compliment. But I do believe that it is important to tell your daughters that they are beautiful, and to never forget it.

We all have features that we don’t appreciate about ourselves. We all have those days where we wake up, look in the mirror, and are disgusted with what we see. At least I know I do.

I have always hated how round my face is. I thought when I was younger that when I grew up, I would lose my baby fat, and grow into my round head. This was not the case. I still have a round face no matter what, and at this point, I have just learned to accept it.

I still sometimes look at pictures of myself and complain that I don’t like what I look like. My mom always yells at me. And when she does the same about pictures of herself I yell at her as well.

The point is to hold your female friends and family accountable for remembering their outer (and inner) beauty. There are always going to be people that you wished you looked like or features that you wished you had. But you must always remember that you are beautiful, no matter what you look like. God made us all unique, and I bet there is someone who wishes they looked like you do.

And I hope you know, even if your mother never told you, “You are gorgeous!”

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8 Struggles Of Being 21 And Looking 12

The struggle is real, my friends.

“You'll appreciate it when you're older." Do you know how many times my mom has told me this? Too many to count. Every time I complain about looking young that is the response I get. I know she's right, I will love looking young when I'm in my 40s. However, looking young is a real struggle in your 20s. Here's what we have to deal with:

1. Everyone thinks your younger sister or brother is the older one.

True story: someone actually thought my younger sister was my mom once. I've really gotten used to this but it still sucks.

2. You ALWAYS get carded.

Every. Single. Time. Since I know I look young, I never even bothered with a fake ID my first couple of years of college because I knew it would never work. If I'm being completely honest, I was nervous when I turned 21 that the bartender would think my real driver's license was a fake.

3. People look at your driver's license for an awkward amount of time.

So no one has actually thought my real driver's license is fake but that doesn't stop them from doing a double take and giving me *that look.* The look that says, “Wow, you don't look that old." And sometimes people will just flat out say that. The best part is this doesn't just happen when you're purchasing alcohol. This has happened to me at the movie theater.

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4. People will give you *that look* when they see you drinking alcohol.

You just want to turn around and scream “I'M 21, IT'S LEGAL. STOP JUDGING ME."

5. People are shocked to find out you're in college.

If I had a dollar for every time someone had a shocked expression on their face after I told them I'm a junior in college I could pay off all of my student loan debt. It's funny because when random people ask me how school is going, I pretty much assume they think I'm in high school and the shocked look on their face when I start to talk about my college classes confirms I'm right.

6. For some reason wearing your hair in a ponytail makes you look younger.

I don't understand this one but it's true. Especially if I don't have any makeup on I could honestly pass for a child.

7. Meeting an actual 12-year-old who looks older than you.

We all know one. That random 12-year-old who looks extremely mature for her age and you get angry because life isn't fair.

8. Being handed a kids' menu.

This is my personal favorite. It happens more often than it should. The best part of this is it's your turn to give someone a look. The look that says, "You've got to be kidding me".

Looking young is a real struggle and I don't think everyone realizes it. However, with all the struggles that come with looking young, we still take advantage of it. Have you ever gone to a museum or event where if you're under a certain age you get in for a discounted price? Yeah? Well, that's when I bet you wish you were us. And kids' meals are way cheaper than regular meals so there have definitely been a couple times when I've kept that kids' menu.

So, all in all, it's not the worst thing in the world but it's definitely a struggle.

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To Those Who Are Scared To Be Themselves, You Shouldn’t Be

Be proud of who you are and do not shelter your beautiful soul from the world. Some may love you some may not but that is life.


As a society we are hesitant. Hesitant, to be undeniably us. Hesitant, to express our truest emotions. Hesitant, to show who we are in our truest form. What if I said that through this hesitation you are not only hindering yourself, but shielding those around you from truly getting to know you for you. What a shame that is.

The world wants to know who you are. Regardless of what the social normative says. Show me your tired, show me your happy, show me your sadness. Show the world what is you in your entirety.

I used to hesitate too. Hell, I still at times continue to hide. Hide from those trying to get to know me, I am nervous that they will not appreciate what they see. Opening up is a difficult yet weird experience. However, worth it.

High school was not an easy time for me. I would not say I had it made or had it awful, but like any teenager trying to figure themselves out; it still was not easy. Reflecting on my time before higher education, I would say I wasn't true to myself.

I kept to myself. I was friendly and people knew me, at least they thought so anyways. But my closest friends and family knew, the much deeper parts of me. That I genuinely can not stop laughing once I start, that I can imitate just about any cartoons voice, that if you needed a shoulder to cry on I am the girl to call.

Instead, people thought I was friendly. A little awkward but friendly. Any potential relationship that seemed new or uncertain I would run from. Because opening up to people is scary and they may not like what they see. They may get a sense for what my mind is like and not value my thoughts. Or worse, they may find me "weird".

Want to know what I have to say to that now? Screw that. Be who you are. So what if people do not love what makes you, you? Do you like you? Certainly there are days where I am not happy with who I am. I am impatient and by no means perfect, but as a whole… I would like to think I am pretty cool.

I am not longer scared to show people the funny, loud, sometimes annoying, sensitive, emotional, undeniable me. The difference? My own attitude. To the person reading this, do not hide who you are.

For one of two reasons. The first, you never know who will fall in love with all things you. By this I mean, you could find your soulmate, your best friend, your absolute go to. Just by sharing you're making the world a better place. Give the world a chance to know who you are, because we want to!

The second, do it for yourself. It is such a relief. It is such a beautiful feeling being open and honest about everything you are. Sure, people may sometimes think I am weird, I do some questionable things. But that is what makes me, me! Again why hide from the world, when you could add some color to it.

More importantly you deserve to be comfortable in your very own skin. Do not hesitate to share yourself with new people. Life is short, people value honesty, openness, above all else the truth. Show you in the truest form.

For those, who keep themselves sheltered from the world out of fear I am here to say I understand you. Irrational fears and all. But speaking from experience, I am proud to be open about my awkward, weird, funny self to those I know and do not know at all. Promise you, you will feel the same some day.

Allow for the world to meet the real you. They may love you or they may not, but at least you're honest. Introduce yourself in your entirety. Next time you introduce yourself to someone, don't hesitate. Share your soul, the world needs some color.

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