Dear girl (or anyone) questioning their worth,

Oh, my dear, I see you. I feel you. Listen to me when I tell you that it is all going to be okay. You've got this and you're stronger than whatever you might be facing.

You've been laying on the floor of your bathroom crying and sobbing. You have laid in bed awake for hours with tears slowly streaming down your face. It feels like it's becoming too much. Your chest feels like the barbell you have been holding above you and has become too much. Your arms shake and it falls onto your chest. It's crushing in on you. You've finally realized that even though you're trying so hard it doesn't seem to be cutting it. You don't feel like you're enough. I will tell you now that even without knowing you, I know you're wrong. You are more than enough. You are capable of things you don't even know yet.

If it's about that "special" someone, know that they are not worth it. You are worth it, though. You are so much more than worth it, baby girl. From head to toe your body holds cosmos they can't even wrap their mind around and that is why they left. They didn't leave because you're too big, or too smart, or too dumb, or didn't put out enough. Whatever bull crap excuse they are giving you is exactly that, bull crap. You are so much more than worth it for the right person my love. Hold your head high.

Maybe you aren't right for them and that's why it didn't work. That is okay. Maybe they do need someone more like what they want, but know that just because that dream person they desire isn't you, it doesn't make you any less wonderful. My dear, there is someone for you. Your heart fits the world, your eyes hold the stars, and your mind carries the universe. You are so much smarter than what you even believe. You are so much more beautiful than what you know. You are so much more than what you believe.

Know that when people critique you it doesn't mean you're not enough. When someone gives you feedback it means that you are WORTHY of growth to them. Just because you have areas you can grow in does not mean you are not enough. That's exactly what enough is. It doesn't mean you're perfect. It means that you are a person who is wonderful and great who also still has things they might need to work on and improve. That is completely okay because if you never improve then why would life even matter? You have to grow and change in every part of life in order to move to the next part.

So maybe it's not that special someone who's making you feel like this. Maybe it's a teacher, a friend, a co-worker, a parent, a sibling, or anyone else. Maybe it's a misunderstanding and they don't mean to make you feel like this. Talk to them. Because feeling like you aren't good enough isn't okay at all. You need to feel enough so that you can reach for goals. Maybe the first goal is to feel good enough. It's still a goal and you can still achieve it. My love, you gotta believe in yourself because at the end of the day you're the only person you always have to put up with. Be good enough for you before anyone else. Are you happy with yourself? Are you okay with how you're living your life? Do your best every day because that is all you can do.

Sincerely,

You

So as you have possibly put together by now, this was not only a letter to anyone who might need it, it's also a letter from me to myself.

I struggle constantly with this. Those who are extremely close to me can attest to this. I don't tell you this to gain your pity. It's only going to make me feel worse. I tell you these things so that maybe someone else also struggling with this knows that they are not alone. I tell you these things to help anyone and everyone I possibly can. I tell you these things because I have been there.

I am still there.

That goal of feeling good enough is at the top of my to-do list every single day. This is a constant struggle for people like us. You probably know how I feel. The media constantly pushes this idea of perfection in our face. From the way we need to look, to what we need to drive, to the clothes you wear, there are a billion ways that you might not be good enough in the media's eyes. Ignore it. It is all lies. The only one you need to be good enough for is yourself, and my dear you are already there. You have a body that is constantly doing amazing things even at a biological level. Your cells are always bursting with beautiful life. You breathe, you talk and sing, you dance, you walk. You do amazing things every day by just living another day because someone might not be that lucky. Someone is saying goodbye to a loved one today. Someone is taking their last breath. Someone is being born. What are you doing today? You are being enough Smile today and make someone else smile while you're at it. Roll all your windows down and jam out to your favorite songs. Relax knowing that not only are you more than enough for yourself, you are more than enough to the people who truly matter.

Please share this for anyone you know who might be struggling with this. I don't ask for shares to win any competition or to get any piece of fame I can. I ask you to share so that together we can help people. I write to help people even if that means humbling myself and opening myself up to write about something personal in order to help anyone going through something similar. If any of you reading this feel you need someone to talk to, my messenger inbox is always open! Feel free to message me. I am here with you. You are more than enough and you can accomplish anything you put your mind to. So stay beautiful, stay you, stay gold.