To the Girl Who Carries the World on Her Shoulders....
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To the Girl Who Carries the World on Her Shoulders....

We all know what it feels like to be overwhelmed and just want to throw in the towel, but the reality is, not everything needs to get done right now. The dishes will be there tomorrow and the world won't end if you take a break.

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To the Girl Who Carries the World on Her Shoulders....

It is well-known that women are the best multitaskers on the planet, but sometimes that can be a weakness. I often take on ten tasks at once because I think I can handle it and then I end up stressing about all of the things I could be doing. "Oh, I can't sit down, the house is a mess," or my personal favorite "I don't want to feel like I'm not doing what I'm supposed to." Be easy on yourself, girl. Life gets crazy and the show will go on, whether you nap at noon or you stay up until 2 am organizing cabinets.

Not everything is for you to fix.

I know you feel like as soon as something goes wrong you stress about it until it's fixed, but breathe first. The car breaking down isn't the end of the world and it will get fixed. The garage door opener running out of batteries feels like the end of the world in your week of turmoil, but I promise it will be okay. Not everything falls on you, remember to tell yourself that.

Voice your overwhelming thoughts to your spouse.

Men especially are the worst procrastinators. There could be fifteen things that need to be done and men can still sleep soundly. Your husband has no idea you're thinking about the 20 things coming up in the next week, TELL HIM. He wants to help you! He knows you're independent and like to be super wife, but he can alleviate some of that stress. That's what spouses are for!

Everything is not going wrong.

Let me tell you, I've had weeks, maybe months where nothing went right. I was late to work one day, ran out of gas the next day, my bank locked my card the following day, and my husband cracked his rim all in the span of about 4 days. It's easy to throw your hands up and say "I'm done," but it will all be okay. It's a bad week, not a bad life!

Don't stress over things you can't control.

This statement didn't make much sense to me until maybe 6 months ago. I've always been a stressed out person, I was diagnosed with anxiety at a young age and don't know what it feels like not to worry about literally everything. It is pointless to stress about things that are not in your reach. Things will go wrong, plans will go up in flames, but only stress about the things you can control.

Lastly, be easy on yourself.

You're probably juggling a job, school, being a wife, trying to have a social life, and have time to yourself. It seems like 24 hours isn't enough time to do anything. Even if you take 30 minutes to just regroup and organize yourself, it will help. You're a busy woman, trust me everyone will understand. Don't feel bad for not answering phone calls, cancelling plans, or losing your mind for a few minutes. It's normal and you're doing a great job.

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