I bet you've read some articles out there where you're given the credit for making your ex a "better person" or where you're the main reason that they're "changed forever". Well, I can guarantee you that you didn't do any of these things for me.
Overtime, I have changed and I'm definitely not the same person you dated a few years back and while it would just be easier to just say it was because of you, it wasn't. What I learned without you in my life shaped me into who I am now. I began to focus on people that really mattered, made new friends, threw myself into new hobbies and things that made me happy, and found my purpose in life.
I couldn't have figured out what I wanted to do as a career or where to go to college with you constantly breathing down my neck telling me what I SHOULD do and what YOU think is best for me. My dreams weren't as important as yours and I started to believe that. I almost chose where I should g to college based on where you go, which would've been the DUMBEST decision I could've ALMOST made but thank God I relied on my gut instinct and decided to go where I wanted to go and follow the dreams I've always wanted to follow. Me staying true to myself ultimately brought us to the end of our relationship but with you still around, I would've never figured out that I want to go into some sort of health profession because that was "your" thing, not mine.
Your "holier than thou" mindset made me feel absolutely terrible about myself and I always felt beneath you. My word was never as "important" as yours and my opinions and beliefs were always wrong in your eyes. That didn't make me a better person but now I can spot your kind from miles away. I got to deal with a misogynist first hand! How fun is that??
I got to be the girlfriend that your parents didn't like because I was independent and didn't want to grow up to be the typical, "homemaker" wife, but that didn't stop me from being me. No lie, I got such a kick out of your parents hating me because if they didn't, I knew something was terribly wrong. All in all, I'm still as independent minded as I was before I met you.
Now that you're not in my life anymore, I'd like to thank you for nothing. I'd like to thank myself for realizing how toxic you were and for moving on. I don't wish any harm to you and only hope you succeed in life, but you will NEVER receive the credit for well...me. The only person I will EVER thank for changing me, is myself.
Forever and always,
Your "selfish" ex
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1. It's just the basics.
I think we all know this but just to remind everyone, deodorant goes such a long way! If you are an athlete who does not like the white residue some deodorants leave then try using a spray deodorant. Either way do not walk into any type of practice, game, whatever without putting on deodorant.
2. Just an easy tip.
Assorted tea bags arranged on a white surface.
Photo by K8 on UnsplashHere's an easy tip for stinky shoes. Try putting tea bags into your shoes to keep them smelling fresh and to remove odors. This also works with putting tea bags into your gym bags to keep bad smells away.
3. As a college student, I get it.
I get it, we are in college, some are away from home, not a lot of responsibility. One thing that should ALWAYS be a responsibility is clean clothes. If you know you are all out of practice clothes, your practice jersey smells terrible, etc.. GO WASH IT!
Nobody wants to work with someone who smells musty and nasty the whole time. And you definitely don't want to be the person is who looked at as the nasty one on the team. It's simple, just plan ahead and wash your clothes.
4. Time to be real.
man running in forestPhoto by Shashank Shekhar on UnsplashTime to be real, we all sweat. Some sweat more than others. We all sweat by our private areas, the only thing I can say that can help eliminate odors in private areas when sweating is grooming. So if you have lots of hair around your private hair more then likely odors will be present.
All I can say is try to stay clean down there if you sweat a lot by your private area take extra measures like soaking in apple cider vinegar with lukewarm water.
5. Shower right after.
Empty shower stalls in a tiled bathroom.
Photo by - Kenny on UnsplashTry to shower right after a practice or a game if you can. This helps get rid of smells fast. Even if you are playing an away game, if somehow you are able to at least wash up your main areas before getting on a bus ride, you are helping the problem.
6. Another get real moment.
Ladies, sometimes playing sports and being on your period can be hard. Try to stay fresh and clean down there. If you aren't a tampon person, make sure that you always have extra pads with you. After practices or games wash extra good in those areas just to ensure any bad odors are gone.
7. Take home your clothes.
If you have lockers, make sure that you are taking home your practice clothes with you. If you don't smells will soon start to build up. If you have to keep your clothes in your locker try to add a small air freshener
8. Be nice!
"Kindness Matters" on a pink board with a tiled backdrop.
Photo by Copper and Wild on UnsplashIf you notice that someone on your team may need a reminder when it comes to hygiene, simply talk to them in private, You don't have to be mean about it. Offer them advice when it comes to hygiene and how to take care of themselves.
9. Disinfect!
if you play a sport that requires lots of contact with other people or objects try to disinfect have much as you can. it is better to disinfect. With everyone sweating, bacteria can start to build up.
Also, in all honesty, you never know what someone may have(a skin infection, a cut, etc..), so better to be safe than sorry when it comes to disinfecting equipment.
10. Just keep up with yourself.
I always say, just keep up with yourself. I understand you may be very busy but your hygiene is so important, taking care of yourself is important! Stay clean, create your own hygiene routine, and you'll be ok.
There it is! Hygiene is something we can all agree on is important. So keep up it, care about your hygiene!
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