Thank You To My Low Maintenance Friend

Thank You To My Low Maintenance Friend

Thank you for making being your friend easy.

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At times, friendship can seem like more of a chore than what it's really worth. These types of friendships usually fade out and don't last a very long time. Occasionally, there are a few friends that even though you constantly have to be talking to in order to maintain a friendship, they still work. The best friends, however, are those that you don't have to work hard to keep. I'm talking about my low maintenance friend.

Thank you for being my easiest friendship, and my go-to girl. This friendship is one I can always count on. Whether I'm just calling you to come over and spend the night (when we both know I'll fall asleep after being there for an hour) or if I'm calling you for an impromptu visit, I genuinely appreciate our friendship. Our friendship isn't one where we talk every day or even every week for that matter. I can't help but laugh whenever people say, "Oh you still talk to her?"

We talk when we need each other, and the important thing is that we are always there when that time comes. We have never fought and that is because the friendship is so chill, that it just never seems necessary. The best part about our friendship is that we can so long without seeing each other or talking and when we finally do, it's like nothing has changed and we can still sit there and laugh for hours. Plus, let's be real our catch-up sessions are second to none.

It's not that our friendship is not sincere when we go so long without talking to or seeing one other. Life can get hectic. I think what makes our friendship so sincere is that we don't have to talk constantly or see each other a lot for that bond to still be there. You'll always be that friend that my mom asks if I've talked to in a while because she knows how we both are.

Because of how low maintenance our friendship is when I talk to you about other drama going on in my life you always help me keep it in perspective because you remind me how simple friendship should actually be. You still listen to me talk (complain), which I'm so grateful for. You make my life simpler.

Our friendship has been the one constant friendship throughout my entire life. I've never had to question it. You've always been someone that I could say absolutely anything to without a fear that it would be repeated. As teenage girls, that's a pretty cool friendship to have.

Thank you again for being the person I can always call. I know that nothing will ever change our friendship because of how long we have been friends. I am very lucky to be able to call you my friend.

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I Grew Up As An Only Child And No, I Don't Wish I Had A Bunch Of Siblings

Because I didn't have siblings, my house became the gathering spot for me and my best friends. I always had a plus one. And that's how they became family.

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Being an only child almost always sparks an interesting conversation. Oftentimes people who are only children simply can't imagine having siblings and those with siblings can't imagine living in a pit of loneliness. What they don't know is that pit of loneliness isn't actually that lonely and involves a lot of quiet, self-exploration, and being the star of the family unit. Sounds like a party to me! I feel like whenever I tell people I'm an only child they give me a look of pity as if they are imagining me pacing a dark hallway during the Victorian era with a china doll as my only friend.

First of all, the hallway would have been very well lit because my mother is an interior decorator, but I digress. Whenever I tell people I'm an only child they automatically assume I am spoiled and think too highly of myself. I'm not saying they're totally wrong since I'm currently writing a self-indulgent article and expecting people to read it because they are sure to be intrigued by the fabulousness I've been radiating since day one.

Yes, my pink pastel childhood bedroom did house a canopy bed with faux roses strung about the top and a dollhouse my dad built for me (and installed electricity into). Yes, I had the super sweet 16 complete with a ballgown, tiara and matching pink Hummer Limo. But, I don't think being an only child made me spoiled. I got a lot of things but I never expected them. I worked hard in school even though there were no siblings to compete with. I think I am a pretty good sharer.

Now that I've introduced my only childless to you, I am going to tell you just how ~unique~ MY experience was. You're probably rolling your eyes, but I promise you might understand my life a little better after reading this (I am such an only child, why do I care if you understand my life?). I grew up in a one square mile town, walking school district, no stop light kinda deal. And I loved it. My friends became my family. They are still the family I choose today. I always had playmates because of the small size of my town. I especially needed them because I didn't have that childhood companionship with cousins either GASP

Yep, that's right folks. Not only was I an only child but I was also the only grandchild on both sides of my family. Which means I was also the only niece to all six of my aunts and uncles. I was always kind of bummed out that I didn't get that cousins-opening-presents-together-on-Christmas experience, but because of that, I am so close with my aunts, uncles, and grandparents, just like how not sharing my parents with siblings created my profound relationship with them.

As I got older, I realized I wouldn't be a real aunt until I got married. I am so close with my hometown friends that I am sure I will get to be a fake aunt to their kids, but it isn't the same as blood. I started to be curious about what my relationship would be like with my future younger cousins as every year ticked by without them.

As much as I dreamed about what it would be like when I finally had cousins, I never could have conceived of how much my relationships with them would shape me during my young adult years. When I was 14, my aunts who are twins were due one month apart and I went from having zero cousins to two in a blink of an eye. I couldn't contain my excitement. I felt all the feelings people tell you that you're supposed to feel, but even deeper. I didn't know how much I could instantly love someone or how overwhelmed with selflessness I could be. I didn't know how many things that I'd loved and experienced until I thought about sharing all those things with my Aedan and Daisy.

Three years later when I was 17, our family was blessed with another little girl, the sister to Daisy, Miss Lily. Since I am so much older than them, I feel like more of an aunt or mentor. They inspire me to give them something to look up to. It has been the most beautiful experience for me.

I think who you surround yourself with has a great influence on who you become. For me, I surround myself with my family and friends who are like family. As an aspiring writer, I am crafting an identity and I just don't see how I can express that if I don't give you a little taste of where I came from and the people who make me, me. They've taught me how to love and be loved so well. They're still teaching me things every single day.

When I think of all the people closest to me in my head, I picture every one of their faces meshing into a completed puzzle in my heart. That's really cheesy but I'm being real right now. And I guess my final point is this: I'm an only child but my heart holds a whole lot more than just me.

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How To Be A Good Friend, As Told By My High School Journal

Being a good friend doesn't change as we get older.

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So I have been thinking lately about what it means to be a friend. I think the most important attribute of a good friend is loyalty. A true friend sticks with you when you are not acting like your normal self. A true friend sticks by your side even when you are hurting them or acting like a complete jerk. It is a really hard thing to stand by your friend when you see them making mistakes or changing into a new person right before your eyes. It sucks and it hurts.

Surface friends are friends that are only there for you on the surface of things. When they see that you are doing well and you have something that they want they become your friend. Sucking up and acting like they love you so much and how great it would be to be friends. As soon as what they want is gone or you start to have a rough patch they move on and leave you in the dust. THAT SUCKS. Why waste time with people like this? Friendships are so important and they need to be chosen wisely. You can always tell who your true friends are when things get bad.

Just from observing some of the friendships around me they really amaze me. It is crazy to me that some people let other people walk all over them. It is so screwed up and it makes me sad that so many people have so little self-respect to ditch the friends that act like that. Instagram likes or being at the right party doesn't matter. Most of the time the "cool crowd" is shallow and actually doesn't care about you as a person. They care that they are seen with the right people and that they are made out to be such a big deal.

None of that matters! Life is so much more than that.

Why waste time and energy working so hard to impress someone. Girls especially want to impress other girls and feel confident. I even see girls becoming friends with girls that are vulnerable and insecure just so that they can build themselves up because they know that that girl has so confidence. It's as if you saw a really hungry puppy and you wave a bone in front of it to where it wants to come near you. Just as the dog gets close enough to you and builds up enough strength to bite for the bone you pull it away. It makes me sad to see this happening all around me.

Think long and hard about who your friends are. If something terrible happened to you today or your "social status" dropped would they still be there? Are they in the friendship because they love you or are they in it for what material things you have to offer? It can be a very hard line to see and to distinguish. I have had this happen to me a lot and trust me it is no fun.

Basically what I am getting at is be a good friend and choose good friends. Love your friends even when they are so hard to love. Be in the friendship for the person and not for the material things. Bring each other up and be positive! Surround yourself with positive people that have your best interest at heart.

I hope that all of you have good friends that you know are there for you. Hold on to those relationships so tight and be so thankful for them. Good friends are hard to find but when you get them they are worth more than anything!

Be happy and do something nice today

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