This one is for the people like me — the people who hate confrontation and feel waves of anxiety when any form of tension glazes over our lives. This is for the people who will actually do nothing wrong in a situation but apologize profusely because we hate when people are mad at us. This is for the people that get their hearts broken by shitty human beings, whether in a friendship or romantically, and continue to blame themselves for someone else’s idiotic behavior. To those waiting for an apology that’ll never come, you need to let it go.
Now this is immensely easier said than done. If it were easy to forget someone you once held a high degree of emotional attachment toward, you would have done it already. But we all know that this is not an easy feat. We cannot erase memories; we cannot mentally delete every photo; we cannot just forget the things we once said when times were good.
To quote Sir Robert Bryson Hall II (Logic to all of the fake fans), “Death and taxes, that’s all we given.” While variations of this phrase have been used time and time again in order to make people understand the importance of making the most of your life, death and taxes are not the only things guaranteed to happen to us in a lifetime — more often than not, the third, lesser known thing that is a part of the common human experience is heartbreak.
People suck. You will actually encounter some of the most horrible people in a lifetime. And the messed up part about this is that these people don’t need to be serial killers or rapists or Trump supporters (LOL JK). They are the people you see every day, the people you want to include in your life because you see something inside them that they don’t, the ones who, once they are in your life, destroy it from the inside out.
People will take advantage of you if you’re nice, it’s a common fact of life. With this, we get hurt, and we wait for apologies from these people as if they’ll magically realize what they did to mash our psyches and kill our spirits. These people will never realize the extent of the damage they’ve done. In their heads, they were justified; they were right. They blame you for things that are out of your realm of understanding. What you need to remember when hoping and praying that those who have broken your heart will realize what they’ve done is it is up to you to move on.
It stings, and it makes you sad and incredibly angry all at the same time, but sometimes the only thing you can do for yourself is allow yourself to move on without being able to rectify the situation. Sometimes you don’t get the apology you deserve, but at the end of the day, it is a bigger reflection on the person who hurt you. Their character is very much flawed, and it is you who needs to be the bigger person. Take a deep breath, and take a step forward.
