With the month of August upon us, college kids are getting ready to pack up and go back to school once again. For some couples that means that their relationship is going to go long distance again or for the first time ever. I myself am about to begin my second year of a long distance relationship and I am going to share a few tips and tricks so your relationship can go the distance.
The first major component for a successful long distance relationship is something that everyone has probably already heard a million times. Trust. Trust is probably the single most important thing for a LDR. Without that, you have no real foundation for the relationship. It can lead to more fighting and it will destroy the relationship eventually, it is inevitable. Trusting your partner creates an even stronger bond than before and you both will be much happier once you do.
Another important aspect of any long distance is communication. You have to communicate in the right way as well. If you take the time out to talk to your partner and calmly talk things out, you have less fights and an all-around happier relationship.
The second thing I wanted to bring up would be to give your partner the space that they need. You are both people and you both need time to yourselves. If you constantly text or call your partner all of the time, then you will not only annoy them but also the people around you. Plus, when you aren’t communicating by text all of the time then you can actually have meaningful phone conversations at the end of each day and you can have more to talk about.
The next important thing is making up a visiting schedule with your partner. This will give you both something to look forward to in the weeks to come and you can always plan fun things to do when you are together for that time. In a LDR it is also super important to be flexible with one another. Things might not always work out as planned and if you are flexible and understanding it will lead to less fighting and more time enjoying one another’s company when you do get to see each other.
Lastly, it is important to be creative. It can get boring sometimes just calling and texting all of the time. There are plenty of ways to be creative and show them that you care about them. For example, I sent my boyfriend two care packages last school year with little notes in them. He would call me so excited and thankful that I did that for him. I also did a surprise visit as well. Even if you do something simple once or twice a year it can really make a difference in the relationship. Long distance relationships are not easy by any means. It takes two people and a lot of hard work to make things work. Even trying a few of these things next school year can make a huge difference. There will be many people who tell you that it won’t work, there will be a lot of doubts, there will be a lot of tears, but if you put in the work, it will be worth it.
