Love is an amazing feeling, it can be extraordinary when you are with someone who you are compatible with... But, the most important thing is LOVING YOURSELF.
A lot of people lose themselves within a relationship and forget the most important thing of all-- to love yourself. I want to share with everybody tips on loving yourself before getting into a relationship as well as how to be fully content with yourself instead of seeking that affirmation from others. Before you can receive happiness from your external world, you need to first master your internal world.
Loving yourself is a concept that is seen a lot now throughout the media-- but is it really something that everyone talks about? Unfortunately, it isn't. Young girls from the age of five start watching Disney movies, allowing for a distorted image of how love works-- that all guys are like those seen in fairytales. Most of these classical Disney Princess movies have a similar center message, "Find the man of your dreams and that's all you need to be happy." Disney got it all wrong, that's frankly not how it works. Girls shouldn't wait around all day for some "Prince Charming" to come around, we need to go out into the workforce and make something out of ourselves. These movies don't take into account that women aren't "sheep" counterparts to their men "herders," we also have ambitions and goals in life.
My life goal isn't to get married, and that's it. Back then women couldn't hold positions like we can today, and were simply only given the title of a wife. Whenever you read online about a certain woman who was married to a famous man, her whole description is summed to only one label, "wife." That's why I love watching movies where women are the strong, bad-ass characters which inspire young girls not to need a man or to rely on one. You shouldn't ever have to rely on someone to walk into your life to magically make it better with the snap of their fingers. The most important thing is to have your ambitions in your life, accomplish them, become successful, love yourself, and love will eventually find you somewhere when you least expect it.
Loving yourself is something not everyone knows how to do. To love oneself means to love every particle of oneself. Not nit-picking your flaws, which we all have-- and instead, embracing your differences.
When girls are growing up, we are faced with our bodies rapidly changing during puberty. We get hips, breasts, and get heavier. Some girls don't know how to embrace this new change and are down on themselves. Instead of hating your differences, and wishing you looked more like the girl next to you, or the celebrities on television, you can strive to not compare yourself to anyone else!
You are you and that's it! The only person that should define your life is you-- that's it. You should pick and choose what career you want, where you want to live, what you eat, how you dress, what kind of hair you have, if you have pets, and other choices in life. Let you define YOU. You are the greatest and most beautiful person that has the potential to do anything that you want to do in your life! Never let anyone get you down, or let people's opinions of you define you. Work towards what you want in life and everything will fall into place. Never let anyone tell you that you have to fall in love with someone in order for your life to feel "complete," or to be "happy."
Happiness comes from within, and ultimately it is up to each individual to discover the joyous things in life that they truly love!
If you love painting, dancing, acting, taking pictures, reading, writing, or whatever your passions are in life then do all the activities that make you happy!
Before you let someone in, you must love yourself first.
Never lose yourself within a relationship, and never let people tell you who you are.
Love yourself!
