We all have heard of "opposites attract" and seen the people who are the two polar ends come together in books and movies. But when it comes to reality, many say that opposites cannot really attract. And if they do attract, then they do not last that long because the two people will always disagree on different matters and end up arguing. However, that is not true at all. The relationship may require a little more effort, but those couples can definitely last a lifetime. Here are some things to do to ensure a long lasting relationship with your opposite partner:
1. Compromise
Any and every relationship comes with compromises. No two people are going to like the same things. And this becomes more evident when two opposites start dating. Although they will have some common activities they would like to do and some characteristics that are very similar, they will have more things that are different. This difference can cause major fights and misunderstandings. So the best way to deal with the opposite personalities and lifestyle is to compromise. Join your partner to do things they like to do. You can also initiate plans with things of their interest rather than yours because that shows how much you care about them. But if you feel that they aren't taking interest in the things you like and understanding you, be sure to talk to them about it. It is really important to meet half way sometimes as well.
2. Set up boundaries
This may sound kind of negative but it really isn't. If you are not the same page about things, it is important to discuss where both of stand. And this be can about your emotional level, sexual desires, things to do when you guys are apart, or even something that would wish they wouldn't joke or talk about. Understanding the differences between each other can make you stronger. It also helps prevent future arguments and feelings from being hurt.
3. Understand the differences
Often than not, you come to realize that your partner are opposites when it comes to so many things and you try to work around it. You will compromise by meeting half way sometimes or by taking turns choosing one of your interests over the other. If you find the right balance, this will work and help your relationship. But sometimes taking it to the next level is very beneficial. Try to understand why your partner likes something that you don't have a particular interest in. By understanding the back story and just their feelings about a certain activity or lifestyle choice, you will see where your partner comes from. This will reduce the arguments and maybe help you join them or even encourage them.
Opposites can and do attract. And they can also be in a long term relationship. Just like every couple, they have to communicate and compromise, although their level of communication and compromise may have to be greater.
