Every personality comes with its strengths and weaknesses. Dating as a shy girl has a small disadvantage because dating is a social activity, and shy people tend to have trouble being open and social with people who they've just met. Dating someone who's shy can seem like a problem because you may feel like they never open up to you and you never know what they're thinking, and that could be extremely frustrating. So here are a few tips/need to knows when it comes to dating a shy girl.
1. Show interest.... In more than sex.
If you want her, you have to show interest in her. Shy girls tend to overthink; she may be saying to herself "Does he really like me, or is this just sex," "what does he want from me," or "why is he interested in me." The goal is to earn her trust, and you can do this by showing her that you're genuinely interested in her and that sex has nothing to do with that. Show her you care, look her in the eye when she's talking (though she might look away), and compliment her on things that aren't physical.
2. Go easy on the jokes.
Every girl wants a guy who can make her laugh, but shy girls can be sensitive when it comes to certain jokes. It's all fun and games when the two of you are joking about someone else and she may think some of the jokes are funny when they are directed at her, but choose your words wisely because you could hurt her feelings and not know because she probably won't tell you.
3. It will take some time to get to know her.
You may know little things about her, like her favorite food, color or movie, you might know how many siblings she has. You might even know what her personality is like, but do you really know her, do you know her fears, what makes her mad or sad or her plans for the future? It may be frustrating when you're trying to get know her but she just won't open up, but after your trust is gained she will open up, and it will be amazing, just be patient.
4. She is an amazing listener.
She is the most attentive and compassionate listener. She is someone who will listen to you vent, cry, complain, and boast while occasionally adding her two cents, but she will always let you finish. Shy girls tend to speak less so you can talk as much as you want without interruption. She may even offer you the best words of advice.
5. She is full of surprises.
She is quiet and laid back, and once she becomes comfortable around you, she will be full of surprises. With her, you will learn something new every day.
