Many young college students and most likely now high schoolers have joined the notorious Tinder. Many people have told me different reasons why they joined. For some it was because they just broke up with their partner and just wanted to feel wanted in a fun way; for others it's because they are bored and want some person they find physically attractive to talk to. But now for many people it's because they want to find a real relationship. When did this happen?!
As far as I was concerned Tinder was just for fun and a good way to find people in your area to hook up with when you are lonely on the weekends. Now, however, girls are moving across the country to be with the guy they met on Tinder and just really connected with. More and more relationships are coming out of Tinder matches. Who knew?!
Now for me personally I still find that slightly sketchy. I doubt I would move across the country to be with any guy at this time of my life. Whether I had been dating him a long while or not, I’m staying put until I accomplish what I came here to do. Also I have always thought of Tinder as, honestly, a joke, nothing to really be taken seriously. But people believe their results and are taking a leap of faith I suppose. Ask someone nowadays how they met so and so, and more often than not they will say, “Oh on Tinder!” And still to this day I find that absolutely shocking that relationships have actually arisen from Tinder. More power to them though; if they are happy and content in their relationships, who am I to judge?
The whole idea of Tinder is not one that for myself I've ever wanted to consider. I am an old-fashioned person who wants to accidentally run into him, apologize profusely and he end up being the love of my life or some cliché scenario such as that. I believe in my perfect someone being out there and I don’t need technology to find him. It may sound stupid, but we watch all those Match and eHarmony commercials and they ask if meeting people on their own is really working out for them. They say no and then they are encouraged to join so they will easily find exactly what they are looking for and it will last forever.
I don’t like that. I don’t want to believe that technology is going to determine who my soul mate is or the guy I am going to spend my life with. I want to meet him when I least expect it and go through all the craziness and awkwardness that can come along with getting to know someone and seeing if he is compatible with you. Not going into it with the knowledge that information we put into a profile says that we are extremely compatible. It's weird and too forced for my tastes.
In my mind, this is the direction Tinder is going and that scares me! Tinder can be just for fun or for a serious relationship; it’s the best of both worlds.
