A couple of days ago I went to a concert by myself. There was a whole conversation with my co- workers on how weird and awkward it was going to be for me to assist to a concert by myself. The same thing happened with some of my friends, who argued that going to places where people are not expected to assist alone, will make them feel very uncomfortable and therefore prevent them from enjoying the event. How much do we depend on company to even enjoy something? How does the perception of loneliness influence our desires and actions?
Maybe we are afraid of being alone in front of people. It is probably something related to some sort of trend that we all embrace, one which states that we are always expected to be accompanied on specific situations and scenarios. Maybe we are afraid to be judged and be pointed at. Perhaps we find it hard to find our very own space in a shared scenario. It is probably a combination of a misperception, wrong expectations and lack of recognition and value for spending time with oneself.
It seems our society forgot to teach us that loneliness does not necessarily have a negative connotation and that it is a basic human characteristic. There are moments in which a human can become bigger, greater and stronger than himself. Spending time alone allows reflection that makes you truly understand the world and your own view towards it because you are exposed to it differently when you are alone.
When you spend time by yourself, you experiment and feel the world differently, even if it is for a little while. When you encounter a time of loneliness and embrace it constantly as it appears, you reach a level of maturity. Maturity that makes you value your relationships more, that makes you start doing the things you truly enjoy doing without having to apologize for anything.
Incredible and valuable things emerge from a time of loneliness. A time in which only you´re own personal validation matters. So don´t ever be afraid of being alone or finding yourself. Loneliness is a good thing that will allow you to grow. You will be taught important things by your inner self. Go to concerts by yourself, walk alone, cry, eat lunch, visit museums, and also laugh by yourself.
