"Time heals all wounds"
We've all heard this. Every time grief strikes, it's one of the first things that an outsider tries to tell us to feel better. I wish it was never said because it's only a lie. A simple "I'm sorry" would suffice. Time does not heal the wounds that have cut us so deeply. A scar is left behind to remind us of how lucky we were before we had to go through trauma.
My friend passed away at 21 years old. He was the most outgoing and optimistic person I have ever met. He was the epitome of the real fact that only the good die young. This is still a new wound for family and friends who adored him, so it's hard to say if we will ever heal over time. All I know is, the memories left in my head of the great memories and nights of laughs will forever be imprinted within me, just like a scar.
We will all get better, we will all smile again and we will be able to move on, but that doesn't mean we will be "healed". I will always wish there was something more that I could have done to prevent the hurt and suffering, and I would take any chance I could get to go back in time to save him. I know that type of thinking is irrational, but it's part of the damage that has been done to us.
Suffering also comes with some positive outcomes. Things are put into perspective and people come together to remind each other how much they are cared for. Though it was under such ugly circumstances, the death of my close friend brought hundreds of people together to celebrate life.
The scar that was left on all of us also reminds us that things aren't so bad, compared to the worst situation we have dealt with. Life goes on whether it's a good day or a bad day, and that is the most important thing to remember.
Let the statement be "Time creates a scar". A scar to remind us of what we have been through in order to make us the people we are today. A scar to remind us to be safe, to keep our friends close and never let them forget that we are damaged without them. A scar to help us remember the best times with those who were too great to stay with us forever because they were only a mental note to us that says we must cherish what we have before it is gone.
