"The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be." - Oprah Winfrey

Life is all about evolving, isn't it? Humans want to be better than who they were the day before. Passing a test, getting a promotion, or working out - it is all about improving ourselves.

Early adulthood is a phase of vast transformation. Our world is expanded by realizing the different routes there are to take, the new faces you meet, and the places you discover possible to live. While being in school for 13 years, it is easy to be molded by the peers you interact with daily, what teachers educate you on, and the extra-curricular activities you involve yourself in. Once we graduate high school, we are stripped of all of that, all of our familiar surroundings.

For me, it was an intense, but much-needed, transformation. I felt like the real-world shook me by my shoulders and woke up my soul. I don't recognize the person I was growing up, my core values have stayed, but my spirit has become warmer & more empathetic. I gossiped, drank out of boredom, and judged the lives of people I barely knew; I suppose that's just being a teenager. But, envy and insecurity are a poisonous thing, and I believe that is where hate and negativity are rooted from. I was not happy with myself, therefore it was hard to be happy about anything else. Kindness starts with having self-confidence because taking the time to look for the good in yourself leads you to do the same towards others.

There is never a finish line to evolving. We are always looking to improve ourselves or still try to figure out who we are as a person, which makes it impossible to judge one another. How can I critique the way a person is presently acting? Who am I to judge someone based off of their choice of living at that moment in time? We are eternally evolving, forever changing, so what if someone based their opinion on me by who I was five years ago? Or last week when I was having a bad day? We are all at different stages in life, who are we to act as an expert on how to live?

I will never judge someone for their choices if it is not directly affecting myself. The fascinating part about our planet is that we can all live together with our differences and make it work (for the most part). The infamous saying goes, "Put yourself in their shoes." and I believe that will be the best advice you can use until the day you leave this planet. With this advice, grudges cannot be held, forgiveness can be effortless, and compassion will be magnified. Realize every individual evolves at their own pace.

I'm sorry if I have ever wronged you in my past, I was a different person then.