For those who know me, they know that I just left a relationship.
Initially, I ended it because I just wasn’t happy with the person. He made my anxiety worse because it was a long distance relationship, and it just wasn’t right for me.
It was my first serious relationship. After 4 and a half months and a couple weeks of thinking about if I actually wanted to end it, I finally realized that I had to.
Yes, the guy made me smile. Yes, we had some good memories. However, the relationship just didn’t make me happy.
It got to a point where I was annoyed about everything he would do. We fought a lot, and I just had no trust in him. I didn’t trust him because, at the beginning of the relationship, I had heard of his history and what he has done to girls in the past.
However, I decided to ignore what I had heard about him and hop into the relationship anyway. After we broke up, I realized who he really was and how toxic the relationship was for me.
I’m not telling this story to play the “victim” card. I am simply putting it out there because I’m tired of men treating women like they’re nothing and getting away with it.
There’s a history of females always being seen as “inferior” to males. From the 1950’s to even TODAY, women let men do what they want and cause emotional pain, and they don't have any consequences.
Women have learned to accept that men will decide if they’re worthy of love. Men will play with women’s hearts by saying they want a relationship, but as soon as the girl is in love and happy, the guy ends it and says that they “don’t think they can do a relationship.”
It’s so easy for a woman to not feel loved or worthy enough for love just because men treat us like crap. Women need to learn how to love themselves more and stand up for themselves.
Leaving that relationship was my way of expressing self-love and standing up for myself.
I know that I’m not exactly the most confident, but since I’ve recently gotten out of a relationship, I’m feeling the “girl power”.
I’m tired of feeling so worthless when a guy I like doesn’t like me back. I’m tired of giving guys the power. Aren’t you?
It’s time to say, “Who cares if the guy I like doesn’t feel the same? It’s just a guy!”.
I know that just moving on won’t be the easiest thing to do, but you’ll feel better about yourself for being so strong and doing it for yourself. I know that I do.
Also, if you see a guy mistreating a girl, stick up for her. Girls appreciate when other girls tell a guy off for being a jerk. By loving others and being kind to them, it’ll be easier for you to love yourself.
In order to accomplish self-love, you need to start small. Start by looking in the mirror and saying “I love myself. I am beautiful,” every day in the mirror.
It’s such a small thing to do but it will actually improve your view of yourself. As time goes on, you’ll be able to say it and mean it.
There are some other small things you can do for self-love. Take care of your body. Drink more water and eat more vegetables.
Get all dressed up if you want to; looking good can make you feel good. Listen to some of your favorite songs in the morning as you get ready.
Set aside some alone time during your day. Meditating with a positive mind leads to a positive life.
Learning to love yourself is a journey. This year, I decided to start my journey.
I know it may hard at times, but I know it’ll be worth it in the end. I’m starting this journey to become a happier and better me. I suggest you do too.
