Media today makes it appear that a girl's focus in life should be to find a boyfriend. Romance is a top seller in books, movies and television. Girl meets boy, girl likes boy, girl and boy get together. There may be a breakup or two that happen during that process but they still get together in the end. Or there is another boy who comes in and she ends up with that guy. Either way, the girl's big story line is getting together with the a guy. But why should that be our goal? Why does that have to be the only story line we are meant to have in life?

I love a good romance story as much as the next person. Aw, they finally found true love!Oh, those two are so cute together! Princess movies usually have a prince in them for the princess to marry, or the princess ends up a princess because she marries a prince. But how about having just a heroine? Elsa seems to be just fine on her own, same with Merida. We don't need to have a prince giving us a purpose in life.

I have had my fair share of heartbreaks in the past five years and for now, that seems to be enough. I went to college and thought I would find the perfect guy my freshmen year. That wasn't the case though, and it rarely is. I would develop a crush on any guy who showed even a little interest in me and it set me up for a lot of hurt. I met a lot of jerks, and by the end of the year I didn't think my heart could handle anything else. My eyes had shed enough tears, my stomach had eaten plenty of ice cream, and my Netflix account had watched too many rom-coms. Taylor Swift can only do so much. But in experiencing those things I learned a valuable lesson about myself.

I don't need a guy. Sure, I will eventually want to find my prince and get married, but that time is not now. This time is about me. I spent a semester fulfilling a dream I had had since I was 10 years old. I spent the next semester meeting new friends and finding myself and what I wanted to do. These upcoming years I will spend being single and doing what I want. I don't want to focus on finding a guy, I don't want to spend my weeknights crying because I am not some cute guy's first choice. My life isn't a princess movie. I don't need my life to be defined by a boyfriend. My purpose is not to be a trophy. I am breaking out of a mold and becoming my own person.

I am content with where my life is and that I can do it by myself. I am happier just wandering along and not looking around. So it might be a while before I find that perfect guy, but why should I want to rush it? I am not in college to get an "MRS Degree" as my mom says. I am in college because I want to be. I am doing this for me. I will live my life for me.