People always say love is give and take. And it is. But that doesn't mean that it's 50/50. Giving your partner only 50% effort is not love. Love is greater than that. Its not giving yourself completely. But rather allowing yourself to grow completely with someone else.
Love is 100/100. You give your partner the 100% best of you. It's so easy to get lost in that. But that is what makes it so wonderful. Learning what makes then smile. What triggers them. You learn about their temper and how to help. You learn their favorite food and just what kind of tooth paste they prefer. You hear endless memories of their childhood and so badly wish you could have met sooner to have been able to experience those things with them.
You learn about their heart breaks. Why they flinch when you're play fighting. How they became so strong and independent because all they had was themselves. And you become an open book for that one special person and teach them about yourself. Because we all have such incredible stories and finding someone that heard them all, knows and accepts your flaws, and loves you even still is what makes everything so worth it.
I think there's this love that you strive for your entire life and you work for it and your worried that you're never going to get it. You try your best to be the best you can be, so you can find somebody to be with. And then you find them and you find what you've been looking for all along and suddenly everything makes sense.
Your happiness and your success isn't as important anymore because it's all about that other person. And that person's happiness and success makes you the happiest of could ever be. But what makes them happy, is your success and happiness. You find a balance where you both care so deeply for one another, that you become one in the same.
That's where you give 100% of you to the other person. You allow yourself to be vulnerable and open completely. You share your thoughts and dreams and hopes and wishes and truly knock down all the walls. You share your future plans and your children's names and you start to envision a life so perfectly built with someone. And it's scary as hell.
But it's easy because even though yes, you have to work at a relationship. And yes it's hard work... you don't have to work at love.
