I'd like to think that I'm generally a pretty nice person, but there comes a time in your life when you can't take anymore sh*t from people. For a lot of my life, I have been walked all over because I didn't know how to say no. But I've learned (the hard way) how to say no and I have learned to tell people when they've hurt me. It is a skill that is difficult to learn, but I think it is one everyone should learn. Last year was a strange year, and I did not take care of myself mentally, emotionally, or physically as well as I should have. But as I mentioned in previous articles, I also learned a lot from my mistakes and experiences. So I thought I'd share them with you all. Let's begin:
1. I don't have time for people who don't have time for me.
Simple as that. If you are not going to put in the effort to be my friend/boyfriend/etc, then I should not waste my time.
2. I don't have time trying to be someone I'm not.
It's a waste of time for all of us and in the end, I'm unhappy. Being yourself is one of the best things you can do.
3. I don't have time for games.
Especially in romantic relationships. Someone always ends up getting hurt, and I'm tired of the lies.
4. I don't have time to worry about whether or not I'm ever going to find someone.
I will when the time is right, and so will you.
5. I don't have time for people who are going to give up on me.
To be honest, I know I'm worth it and it's your loss.
6. I don't have time for people who don't text me back.
I get it, you get busy. But when you open snaps, post Instagrams and still don't reply? That's just rude in my opinion.
7. I don't have time for worrying about whether or not I'm good enough.
I'm nowhere near perfect, and I have tons of flaws, but at the end of the day, I know my worth. I know I'm good enough. And you should know that you're good enough too.
8. I don't have time to dress for boys.
Sorry, gentlemen, but we dress for ourselves. We dress to feel beautiful.
9. I don't have time trying to be perfect.
Because that's impossible. I can't be the "perfect girlfriend" or have the "perfect body". No one can. I have now chosen to accept my flaws because they are what make me perfectly imperfect.
10. I no longer have time for people who don't care about me.
I am not going to try to make someone care when it's obvious they don't.
This year, I have chosen to be selfish. I have chosen to focus on me. I am going to become the best version of myself, because you cannot love anyone else fully unless you learn to fully love yourself. To those who do care about me, I would do anything to make them happy, and support them during their most trying of times. But all relationships--romantic, platonic, you name it--take two to tango. No relationship can thrive one sided. And I think that is the most important lesson I learned in 2016.
XOXO, T
