At least once in your life – and this is for both males and females – you’ve had that one person, or multiple, that you are completely mesmerized by. You might not know what it is about them, but something intrigues you. However, very seldom do you find a person with that effect on you that feels the same way back. Sometimes, they’re just not that into you. I’ve been in this situation a few times myself, and it is honestly exhausting. Many can relate. You spend time wondering what you could be doing to catch their interest. You go from, well maybe they just haven’t noticed me or thought of me like that, to thinking you’re not attractive enough, to the feeling of not being ‘good enough’. We constantly dread these situations because we feel we can’t find someone who will ever show an equal amount of interest and effort as we do.

So, maybe they really are just not that into you, but… You don’t need them to be.

Society tells us to spend so much time focusing on ourselves. We constantly are told, “you have to love yourself first.” We get that. We do it. We spend time after time telling ourselves that, and loving ourselves. And I don’t know about you, but I’ve been in love with every part of me for a very long time and I still didn’t understand why that wasn’t ‘enough’.

Let me tell you something. Not being "good enough" for someone doesn’t exist; there is no such thing.

Thinking about that and experiencing different situations, I’ve come to a realization that I hope you too see soon. The epiphany is that, yeah, maybe someone doesn’t like me back or doesn’t think I’m something special and they don’t take an interest in me, but that’s okay. Let’s be clear, people always resort to “it’s their loss,” but in reality, it isn’t their loss, you just aren’t meant for them. We should actually start thanking people because if someone doesn’t see you for all of your worth and how insanely great you are, it’s not worth the time and effort. We say we love the chase, but come on, the chase sucks! I hate when people play hard to get because hard to get often goes too far. When people put on a chase and never give in or give anything back, it comes to the point that they are too far ahead of you to ever catch up to. Anyone who makes you work for their attention is only there to play games. Playing hard to get is cute for a short time, but at some point something’s gotta give.

With that being said, we tend to hang so much onto the people who don’t give us the time of day. This blinds us from the one’s that truly want to be with us and learn every single thing about us. If someone isn’t into you, that’s okay, because there is someone out there who is. We often get so down on ourselves when relationships constantly don’t work out, but I’m starting to think that’s a sign. It is a sign that it might not be our time for a relationship. It might be our time to go out and enjoy the people in our lives and the experiences around us. Often times we are so concerned that we need to be dating or finding people to love when we really should just be loving the world in front of us.

I’ve been told time and time again that love finds you when you least expect it. At first, I heard that so many times I was sick of it. I threw that phrase to the side because I thought it was crap. It just sounded good. However, I’ve had a change of heart. Life is about what you make it, therefore, why are we sitting around waiting for the love of our lives to come around? Why do we constantly sit and people watch for cute boys or girls? Why are we constantly liking peoples’ pictures on social media or checking out Tinder? Go out and enjoy the opportunities that you have in front of you. Love will come. Love will find you. But only when you least expect it. One day you’ll be out having the time of your life and you will be the happiest you have ever been, and then someone will come into your life just when you thought it couldn’t get better.

So maybe the person you are crushing on hard just isn’t that into you. But you don’t need them to be because you know that there is someone out there that one day is going to be unbelievably crazy about you. Just wait patiently. You will find them.