Last night, I was told by a cute dude on campus that I was really intimidating right in the middle of a conversation.
That single line spurred this entire article.
Too often, I've been told that I'm intimidating and that that's the reason I'm single.
Me, intimidating. Let's see.
I literally have full-on conversations with dogs.
I drive to the "Beauty and the Beast" soundtrack.
I try to make friends with anyone I come into contact with.
So no, I don't think I'm intimidating.
But, there are definitely a few things that I am.
I do think I'm intelligent. I do think I'm honest. I do think I take the things in life that should be taken seriously, well, seriously. I don't sugarcoat things. I speak my mind and I inherited my mom's talent for being unable to bite my tongue.
So, when did possessing these qualities mean that I was intimidating?
In today's world, it seems like these qualities translate to being intimidating. But if a man were to possess these qualities, no one would think to call him intimidating and tell him he's probably single because of them. He'd just a guy being a guy, right?
I've been asked more times than I count about why I'm single. The conversation usually goes a little something like this: "You're so pretty. You're so funny! You're so stylish! You're so smart! How are you single?!" and then when I respond to something similar to literally just "IDK", the person I'm conversing with says, "It's probably because you're intimidating."
My response to being too intimidating for a man to ask me out or show interest in me is this:
He isn't that much of a man if he thinks an honest, outspoken, and intelligent woman is intimidating. And I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a guy who thinks that way.
There's a fine line that it seems like women cannot cross in how they act, even in 2018. Be smart, but not too smart. Say how you feel, but not really. Be honest, but not too honest.
All this is tied down to attracting a relationship. Because guys don't like a girl that's too outspoken and honest, right? Well, I'm sure some guys are like that. And some girls are fine with that.
But, not this girl. I will continue to be outspoken. I will continue to be loud. I will continue to say things others are too hesitant to say. Because that's me. I was raised to never shy away from the truth or being myself, and that will continue in all my future relationships, both romantic and friendly.
Cheers to the man that'll end up being my significant other someday. You can always be sure I will be honest, loud, outspoken, and take care of you and love you irrevocably.
And don't forget, I'm apparently the most intimidating woman on the block.
