I see a lot of women and men my age or younger trying to find themselves in their significant other. I understand how tempting that can be. You find a guy or girl that makes your heart sink into your chest. You stay up all night to talk to them, only to wake up early in thE morning to talk some more. They know how to say all the right things. They hug and hold you when you're down. They seem understand everything about you and they're the first to do so. They are there for you when you cry, when you laugh, when you're sick, when you just want to give up. This person, for you, is the reason you do certain things. The reason why you gave up that habit. The reason why you see yourself in a different life. The reason you decided not to do this thing and that thing.
Don't get me wrong, it's not always a bad thing. It's OK that you think they understand you more than anyone in this life ever can. It's OK if they become your go-to. It's OK if you rely on them for a good part of your life — But, the problem I am finding is that we think our significant others can save us. We think that because they seem to have the answers, that they are the only answer. We think because we're in this rough part of life that they're here to mend and fix any brokenness in our lives and that's not the case. He is human. She is human. He will fail you. She will fail you. You can't go into this relationship, friendship even, thinking that they won't make a mistake. That would be ridiculous and it wouldn't be realistic.
We need to have this mindset that we are secure in ourselves and in God enough to understand that we are enough with Him and on our own. We have to understand that we will even fail the other person. We can not place all of our hope in another human because people, by nature, are just people. I don't want you to have a broken heart because you put everything into someone who is not your Savior. I don't want to break the "bad" news to you, but you have to understand that loving yourself and loving God is all you need. He's got you. Don't forget.
