They Call Me An 'Introvert,' But That Doesn't Tell The Whole Story

They Call Me An 'Introvert,' But That Doesn't Tell The Whole Story

I can't be social all the time and I don't think anyone should be expected to.


We've all done it. Whether it was in health class in high school, psychology lecture in college, or in the middle of night purely out of curiosity, we've all wondered what "personality type" we are.

Taking the Myers-Briggs test is one of the many ways we place ourselves into boxes, labeling every inch of our character. Whenever I buckle up the courage to label myself (which is not often), I always end up somewhere on the introvert side of the scale. During my freshman year of high school, I kept that information to myself because everyone around me seemed to have this idea that being introverted meant being antisocial or geeky or generally just not as fun to be around. But I'm here to tell you that the stigma could not be more wrong. In fact, I think introverts are more social than extroverts even if it doesn't appear that way.

I have always enjoyed what my mom calls my "solo time." "Solo Time" is when I am allowed a few hours a day to be on my own and be with my own thoughts. It is my time to refuel and rest up my social battery for when I see friends or go out to dinner with family. Think of it like putting gas in a car, you can only drive for so long before you have to stop, take time out of your day to go to the gas station and give your car some good quality fuel. "Solo Time" is just that: good quality fuel.

I'm not here to bash extroverts.

I want to add a new perspective to the discussion. Introvert or extrovert, we simply run on different gas. I love that, as my introverted self when I form friendships I form them deeply. While I can't stand being the center of attention even for just a few seconds, I could bear my soul to someone I trust for hours. I'm not afraid of being social or of people but I am scared of what they think of me. It takes a lot of energy and courage for me to walk into a group situation but grabbing coffee with a friend couldn't be easier.

Life as an introvert is especially difficult in college.

There are always a million social events to go to on weekends, and club meetings and study sessions to attend during the week. It can be hard to find a moment to just sit and be. Living with a roommate can also be difficult because no matter how considerate my roommate is (she is the best!), our room is a shared space so "solo time" isn't always easy to find.

Throughout my freshman year, I found myself run down far more than I was energized.

But this school year, I decided to make a conscious effort to not allow myself to let my tank run dry. I drive off campus when I am feeling anxious and go study in a coffee shop. I drop everything (homework included) to go on a run or to the gym when I can't focus. I spend some Friday nights in bed with Netflix and a hot cup of tea if that's what I need. I can't be social all the time and I don't think anyone should be expected to.

I am going home for fall break this weekend and I couldn't be more excited to do nothing.

To be with my family and dogs in Dallas, and to be able to rest and recharge. I know people that would find the idea of an uneventful break incredibly boring, and I probably will too by the end of my four days at home but right now it is exactly what I need. I'll be ready next Tuesday to be back at college. It is so important for students in college to prioritize their mental health. No grade or internship or career opportunity is worth sacrificing your emotional well-being.

So while some might say I am an introvert and struggle in social situations, I would say I thrive in personal and meaningful ones. I get my energy from being introspective. These are not things you can explain with just one label from a personality test. There is more to our character than that. They may call me an introvert but I refuse to cling to that rigid image of who I am expected to be.

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12 Starbucks Iced Drinks You NEED In Your Life This Summer

Must-try beverages brought to you by your local barista.

Be kind to your baristas, they can make you some pretty great drinks. With the temperature rising and the days getting longer, it's approaching the time to find your summer staple to keep you cool (and caffeinated) over the next few months.

Starbucks offers a wide variety of cold beverages that really hit the spot during the summer months, from espresso drinks to fraps, smoothies, teas and refreshers. As a Starbucks barista, I've had the opportunity to taste most drinks on the menu and receive feedback from customers on the do's and don'ts of cold beverages.

While this is not an exhaustive list, I pulled together some of my favorites to give you, the "Ultimate Starbucks Iced Beverage Bucket List for 2017" that you MUST try this season:

1. Pink Drink

Three words: Basic white girl. If you want a photogenic drink that tastes like a Starburst and makes baristas happy, the Pink Drink is for you. It's a pretty simple beverage... this Strawberry Acai Refresher combined with Coconutmilk is sure to satisfy your hipster needs.

2. Iced White Mocha

This sinfully sweet iced espresso drink is not only one of the most popular beverages on the menu, but sure to wake you up at any time of day. Jazz it up by asking for half white chocolate, half mocha sauce, topped with a mocha drizzle, and you've got yourself an Iced Tuxedo Mocha!

3. Doubleshot on Ice

If nothing else, this quick pick-me-up looks classy while giving you the energy boost you need to get through the day. With two shots of espresso, a bit of milk and classic syrup, this drink is easy to enjoy in little time... it's like a caffeine I.V.!

4. Iced Caramel Machiatto

Surprise, surprise... Caramel Machiattos are actually made with vanilla syrup. Nonetheless, these espresso-topped beverages are absolutely delicious at any time of year, but summer calls for ice! Want to change things up? Ask your barista to make it with half vanilla syrup, half toffee nut syrup to make an Iced Salted Caramel Machiatto!

5. Very Berry Hibiscus Refresher

A sister to the Pink Drink, the Very Berry Hibiscus Refresher is a fruit juice-blackberry combo that makes for a pretty chilled beverage to enjoy on the go. The caffeine content is minimal, making it a great option for any time of day.

6. Vanilla Sweet Cream Cold Brew

Cold Brew is basically Starbucks' version of a smoother-tasting iced coffee with more caffeine. The Vanilla Sweet Cream Cold Brew is a standard drink topped with vanilla-flavored heavy cream to create a sweet taste and a marbled appearance in the beverage. Want something with flavor, but not in the mood for vanilla? Try the Toasted Coconut Cold Brew!

7. Mango Black Tea Lemonade

The Mango Black Tea Lemonade is one of the most popular drinks on the menu. Iced Teavana tea mixed with mango syrup and lemonade makes for the perfect combination

8. Iced Chai Tea Latte

Iced Chais - sound so sophisticated, yet so simple to make. If you order this drink, there is a 10/10 chance that your barista will love you for it. Milk mixed with a sweet and spicy chai syrup makes for a classy drink that can be enjoyed at any time of day.

9. Iced Cinnamon Almondmilk Machiatto

The identifying characteristic that makes a macchiato, well, a macchiato is that the espresso shots are poured on top of the milk and flavoring. Starbucks' Iced Cinnamon Almondmilk Machiatto is a combination of cinnamon dolce syrup and almondmilk topped with espresso shots, a caramel drizzle and a cinnamon dolce topping to create a delicious dairy-free option in the macchiato family.

10. Sunset Refresher

This secret menu drink is fairly simple to make with a cool lime base, lemonade, lime slices, and ice topped with black tea. When finished, the drink will have an ombré appearance that makes it totally picture-worthy!

11. Iced Caffè Americano

Calling all espresso lovers: Americanos are a Starbucks signature. The drink itself is pretty simple - espresso and water topped with ice, but if you're feeling particularly adventurous, you can mix things up with a flavored syrup. This drink is sure to wake you right up, no matter the time of day.

12. Strawberry Lemonade

Want something cold but not feeling coffee or a frap? Frozen Strawberry Lemonade is definitely worth a try! While this drink is not on the menu, most baristas are happy to make it upon request. Just ask for a combination of strawberry flavoring, lemonade, and ice blended together for a slushie-like beverage!

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A Love Letter To My Air Fryer

And why you would love an fryer too...


In a previous article, I wrote about how love to use for organizing things. I'm still loving Trello. I've haven't grown bored of it and stopped using it (like I have with some other organizational systems). This time, I'm going to share another item that I love, and it's for one of my favorite things, food! I finally gave in and bought an air fryer, and after my first use, I literally said that it's wonderful! I bought a small air fryer. It only holds about two quarts, but it's perfect for quick lunches.

I thought I'd love the air fryer if it could dry fry food with little to no oil, and it does just that. I'm also in love with the air fryer, because I could simply put the food in it, set the timer and live my life for a few minutes until the food is done. I don't have to stand over it and watch the food cook. That makes the air fryer a winner! Did I mention that it really does work?! Yes, it does work. Now, you could buy foods that are already breaded and throw them in the air fryer, but if you want to go the healthier route, you can use bread crumbs, flour, and eggs to make your own crispy coatings for your foods. Dipping your food in your own homemade batter cuts out some of the salt and added chemicals in the frozen pre-fried foods.

You can also fry foods that do not even need a homemade batter. Without using the batter, I've made sweet potato French fries and burritos in it. The tortilla for the burrito turned out nicely crispy, but I didn't leave it in the air fryer long enough for it to be crunchy. The sweet potato fries came out nice. I've tried making crispy chickpeas with Italian seasoning, but they weren't to my liking. However, I have loved everything else that I've made in the air fryer. Sometimes I just put a quick meal in it, just to re-heat it, since I don't use a microwave. I just think that using the air fryer is healthier than using microwaves, and I love that I don't need to put my food in a special box or anything for it to be really crispy. If you love fried chicken or fried fish, you'd love this little machine as much as I do!

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