Men are something else aren't they? Just when you start to get over them, just when you rid them out your life, they always find some way to come back. Females could be living their life happily, moving on to the next guy, working more, maintaining good grades, even spending more time with friends and family. Then all of a sudden the devil sees you happy, and finds a way to creep up in your life.
When this person comes back in your life, as a woman you must decide whether to take him back or get closure. Now they both seem very tempting, but one choice may be better than the other.
First choice: taking him back. Now yes, this seems all fine and dandy, but then you need to weigh out the pros and cons. You need to look back at all the ways that man hurt you, and every bad thing he did to you. Don't look at the good memories, because that's just going to make you want him back. Yes, I know you miss him like crazy, and have been waiting for this moment, but you have to think, do you really want to go back, and act the way you did, and get treated the way he treated you.
Choice number two: get closure. Now this is also a good choice. Getting closure allows you to get everything out, get most of your questions answered, and allows you to not hate this person anymore. Closure allows you to tolerate this person and not be so angry all the time, whenever his name comes up, or whenever you see him around. Now closure is good, but it's hard because that means you have to let this person go, and now that you and this person are on good terms, you may miss him, or think of all the good times.
Whenever those thoughts come in your mind, get busy. Do something to distract you, because going down that path is completely wrong. It will be very, very hard to get over him, especially if you feel you have a bond with him, but trust me if you cut him off now, it gives opportunity for more good men to come.
