Stop Freaking Out About The New Bachelor Being A Virgin

Why People Should Stop Freaking Out About The New Bachelor Being A Virgin

We get it. Colton is a virgin. What's the big deal?


So, the premiere of ABC's "The Bachelor" just recently aired, and the amount of times that someone (either Chris Harrison or any of the 30 women) mentioned the fact that Colton is a virgin astounded me. I found myself actually rolling my eyes the more it was mentioned.

We get it. We had to deal with the drama and controversy surrounding this fact practically all during Becca's season of "The Bachelorette", and then round 2 on "Bachelor in Paradise". Enough is enough. The man is a virgin. Let's get over it and enjoy the already drama filled season without that unnecessary and annoying aspect added into it.

Hopefully these women can find something else about Colton to talk about and be interested in, or else this season will get really annoying really fast. If he decides to lose his virginity in the fantasy suites this season, good for him. If not, good for him. It doesn't matter. At least, it shouldn't, in terms of the viewers and women having expectations of Colton.

I understand these women are going into this looking for a husband in Colton, and physical intimacy is a huge part of that for many women. However, that doesn't mean he's any less of a man because he's made the decision to wait for who he feels is important enough to him to share that moment with.

This show isn't about hooking Colton up so that someone can claim the prize of being the one to take his virginity. It's his hope of finding love, and there's a lot more to love than just the physical aspect of it. Which is why I think we, as viewers, and the women dating him, need to let it go and actually worry about getting close to him emotionally above anything else.

The way that this premiere was portrayed, it makes it seem like the only thing that some of these women are interested in is taking Colton's virginity, or just making fun of it, in a sense, by questioning why he is a virgin. It's his decision, a conscious decision that he made. So why is he being judged for that? Just because the whole world now knows? Who cares?

Also, can I just say, it's also really not cool how the women of this season are claiming they can't believe that Colton is a virgin simply because he's so "hot". I'm pretty sure that being attractive doesn't automatically make you not a virgin. People make choices, and Colton just happened to make a different choice then, apparently, many other people his age have made.

I hope that this season lets go of this old aspect that they think makes the show more dramatic, but instead makes it annoying, because it's taking an issue that shouldn't be a big deal at all to us as viewers, and making it into a huge, dramatic deal. Colton has even been given the unofficial title of "The First Virgin Bachelor".

Why does that matter? In terms of him being the Bachelor, it shouldn't. Just let the man get his chance at finding love. Hopefully, these women will ease up a little throughout the season and let Colton be confident and comfortable in his own personal choices. If they truly want to get to know him and fall in love with him, they should trust that Colton can make the adult decision if he wants to lose his virginity this season and to whom.

Colton shouldn't at all feel pressured to lose his virginity just because he is a good looking man who is looking to marry. Nobody should ever feel pressured to make that big of a decision, especially when it's more of a choice that affects them personally, and not anyone around them.

Hopefully, this season, Colton finds a woman that can respect and understand that. Hopefully, we can all learn to respect and understand that people make their choices for their own reasons, and most of the time, it's none of our business.

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13 Name Ideas For The Taylor Swift Album Rumored To Come Out In 2019

And every theory that has come from over-analyzing her Instagram.


Since it's been almost a year and a half since Taylor Swift released her last album, "reputation," the world is dying to know when we're going to be given new music from the queen herself. In an interview, Taylor said that the next album will be here before she turns 30, which will be this December.

This only means one thing: the new album has to come out in 2019.

While many people suspected an album release in the Fall because that's what Taylor has done with the past 6 albums, all signs are pointing to a release date much sooner than that. With all of the anticipation for the rumored new album, fans and news outlets are scrambling to gather any clues that they can find that might reveal the theme or the name of the next album.

While Taylor definitely knows what she's doing, here's 13 name ideas that she should totally consider using:

1. "13"

The number 13 has been known to be Taylor's lucky number, so it's already a shock that she has never named an album after this number. Given that 2019 is the 13th year of Taylor Swift, maybe this is finally the year...

2. "Take Me Home"

The rumors that this album will take us back to Taylor's country roots are alive and well. Could this Instagram photo of herself reminiscing on her childhood be a hint?

3. "Pennsylvania"

Similar to the "Take Me Home" theory, if the album does turn out to be similar to the music from "the old Taylor", she could potentially name the album after her Pennsylvania roots.

4. "Begin Another Me"

The FBI works hard, but Swifties work harder. If you go through all of Taylor's captions from the "new era", beginning with this Scrabble picture from October 21, 2018, the capital words spell out "Begin Another Me". Now that she's addressed her "reputation", is this her fresh start album? We killed the old Taylor, but is the new Taylor now coming to the phone?

5. "Love, Taylor"

It's how she signs almost all autographs. It's simple, and honestly, it's my favorite possibility out of all of the theories.

6. "To, Joe"

Similar to "Love, Taylor", there's speculation that this album will only consist of love songs for Joe. Would she go as far as to dedicate the whole album to him?

7. "Mermaid"

She wears a mermaid shirt in the closing credits of "The Reputation Movie", there's a mermaid patch on her camo jacket from the reputation era, there's a mermaid in the background of the "End Game" music video, and she even dressed as one for Halloween. She is the queen of planning and dropping hints. Were these all ways to tell us the name of the next album?

8. "TS7"

It's simple and stupid, but maybe she got so sick of the fans calling the album "TS7" that she just gave up and named it that.

9. "Crimson"

Are we just hoping for a second version of her "Red" album with this one? Definitely. But, hey, if we finally get the full 10 minute version of "All Too Well", I think it's well worth it.

10. "Forget Me Not"

There's been multiple times recently where she's been seen wearing clothing with Forget-Me-Nots on them. Honestly, it's such a cute album name, too.

11. "Sounds Of A Different Season"

There's literally no theory behind this one other than that her new Instagram theme has sported colors that Taylor hasn't used since the Fearless and Speak Now eras. Especially if this album does turn out to be a Spring or Summer release instead of her traditional late Fall releases...

12. "Next Chapter"

During her acceptance speech at the AMAs she ended with "I'm even more excited for the next chapter". This was the first time that she hinted at the next album and fans were quick to critique her specific word choice. While "Next Chapter" is a line from her "Speak Now" album, it could also be the name of the next album. Maybe the next album is even self-written just like "Speak Now".

13. "Paradise"

Finally, the most popular and believed theory of them all. After the infamous 7 palm tree picture took Instagram and made all of the album theories explode, fans quickly decided the album will definitely have a tropical feel and may even be called "Paradise". In fact, over the past 2 years Taylor's made many references to palm trees in her wardrobe and music videos. She even wore a patch on the Reputation Tour that said "paradise". Oh, and was anyone else confused about the patch being sold on her website that was 2 pink dice? They were a "pair of dice"...

Only time will tell. But sooner rather than later, please, Taylor.

One thing's for sure, our theories probably aren't even close to accurate.

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Kim Kardashian West: Attorney At Law

People are underestimating her, much like how Warner Huntington III underestimated Elle Woods.


If you've been paying attention to social media, then you may have noticed the little announcement that Kim Kardashian West is participating in a 4-year law apprenticeship with the intention of taking and passing the bar by the end of it. Yes, you heard that right. THE Kim Kardashian. Armenian bombshell, reality show star, businesswoman, and most importantly, the most famous crying meme you'll ever see around.

I'll be honest with you, I don't particularly like the Kardashians. I used to watch their show religiously, but then they got super into promoting appetite suppressants and waist trainers in their social media and I wasn't about that unhealthy body-image life and I stopped following them. However, I do have a certain level of respect for her and how good of a businesswoman she is, because as much as people hate her, they can't deny that she has an empire built around her, no matter how superficial and expensive it is.

Beyond all of that, a lot of my respect for her comes from her and her husband Kanye being loud and unsubdued voices on Criminal Justice Reform. Many people have heard about Kanye's unabashed support of Donald Trump, but putting those feeling aside (however hard they may be), much of what Kanye has done by schmoozing up to Trump, is bring attention to the bigger picture of our broken justice system.

Back to Kim, in May of 2018, she went to the White House and spoke to Trump about prison reform as well as the possibility of pardoning Alice Marie Johnson. One week after her talk with Trump, Johnson was pardoned from a life sentence and was set to be released from prison after serving about two decades for a first-time drug offense. It was this instance that really drew Kim towards law.

This past week, Kim announced that she was going to become a lawyer and since then I've heard many jokes and comments about her and these particular ambitions. These comments mostly come from people who are not of color. These comments come from people who don't understand the hardships that this justice system imparts disproportionately against people of color. These comments come from ignorant people, but I get it. I was taken aback by it too. However, she is using her money, name, and fame to do some really necessary good in this world and for that I applaud her.

So join me in welcoming and wishing her the best at using her fame for something good. Kim Kardashian West, Criminal Justice Advocate and Lawyer.

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