Why People Should Stop Freaking Out About The New Bachelor Being A Virgin

Why People Should Stop Freaking Out About The New Bachelor Being A Virgin

We get it. Colton is a virgin. What's the big deal?


So, the premiere of ABC's "The Bachelor" just recently aired, and the amount of times that someone (either Chris Harrison or any of the 30 women) mentioned the fact that Colton is a virgin astounded me. I found myself actually rolling my eyes the more it was mentioned.

We get it. We had to deal with the drama and controversy surrounding this fact practically all during Becca's season of "The Bachelorette", and then round 2 on "Bachelor in Paradise". Enough is enough. The man is a virgin. Let's get over it and enjoy the already drama filled season without that unnecessary and annoying aspect added into it.

Hopefully these women can find something else about Colton to talk about and be interested in, or else this season will get really annoying really fast. If he decides to lose his virginity in the fantasy suites this season, good for him. If not, good for him. It doesn't matter. At least, it shouldn't, in terms of the viewers and women having expectations of Colton.

I understand these women are going into this looking for a husband in Colton, and physical intimacy is a huge part of that for many women. However, that doesn't mean he's any less of a man because he's made the decision to wait for who he feels is important enough to him to share that moment with.

This show isn't about hooking Colton up so that someone can claim the prize of being the one to take his virginity. It's his hope of finding love, and there's a lot more to love than just the physical aspect of it. Which is why I think we, as viewers, and the women dating him, need to let it go and actually worry about getting close to him emotionally above anything else.

The way that this premiere was portrayed, it makes it seem like the only thing that some of these women are interested in is taking Colton's virginity, or just making fun of it, in a sense, by questioning why he is a virgin. It's his decision, a conscious decision that he made. So why is he being judged for that? Just because the whole world now knows? Who cares?

Also, can I just say, it's also really not cool how the women of this season are claiming they can't believe that Colton is a virgin simply because he's so "hot". I'm pretty sure that being attractive doesn't automatically make you not a virgin. People make choices, and Colton just happened to make a different choice then, apparently, many other people his age have made.

I hope that this season lets go of this old aspect that they think makes the show more dramatic, but instead makes it annoying, because it's taking an issue that shouldn't be a big deal at all to us as viewers, and making it into a huge, dramatic deal. Colton has even been given the unofficial title of "The First Virgin Bachelor".

Why does that matter? In terms of him being the Bachelor, it shouldn't. Just let the man get his chance at finding love. Hopefully, these women will ease up a little throughout the season and let Colton be confident and comfortable in his own personal choices. If they truly want to get to know him and fall in love with him, they should trust that Colton can make the adult decision if he wants to lose his virginity this season and to whom.

Colton shouldn't at all feel pressured to lose his virginity just because he is a good looking man who is looking to marry. Nobody should ever feel pressured to make that big of a decision, especially when it's more of a choice that affects them personally, and not anyone around them.

Hopefully, this season, Colton finds a woman that can respect and understand that. Hopefully, we can all learn to respect and understand that people make their choices for their own reasons, and most of the time, it's none of our business.

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Whether you love him or hate him, we all have to admit James Charles has some of the most iconic quotes of all time. Personally, I live for James Charles and his Youtube videos. He has the best content by fair of any beauty influencer. UM HELLO?? His collaboration with Morphe is absolutely stunning and of course, I had to buy it. But here are some of my favorite James Charles quotes, most I use on a daily basis.

1. Sister spooked

Let's face it, we all get a little sister spooked when we look at our grades or bank account. This quote is the perfect way to describe that feeling.

2. TEA!!

OH THE TEA!!! We all love a good tea spill. I have to be honest, I do use this on a regular basis.

3. Not with that attitude

The phrase to use when someone is being a negative Nancy.

4. Good and fresh

Because when something is good, it's not just good, it's good and fresh.

5. Good and FUN and fresh

When it's really good and fresh, it's good and FUN and fresh. Perfect phrase for all situations!

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If you're a true James Charles fan, you know that this is THE quote James is best known for. We all love some sister savings!!

7. Hello?

This is the question you ask yourself after you study all night for a test and see the first question.

8. Love that

We don't say "I like that" or "That looks good," we say "Love that." Why? Because it sounds better.

9. Spill the tea sis

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Janet Still Deserves Better

15 years after one of the most controversial moments in television history, we need to apologize to Janet Jackson.


Every February, America sits down to watch the biggest pro-football game of the year. The Super Bowl is a part of our culture. It's in our blood. We throw parties for all our friends and family. We make plates and plates of food like, for example, buffalo chicken dip. I'll eat that dip until I can't eat anymore. Some of us watch it for the game depending on who is playing. The rest of us watch it for the star-studded and high-price commercials. Some do watch for the 20 to 30-minute halftime show that have featured some of the biggest musicians of our time.

Fifteen years ago, singers Janet Jackson and Justin Timberlake along with rappers P. Diddy, Nelly, and Kid Rock performed at Super Bowl XXXVIII in Houston, Texas. The entertainers performed some of their greatest hits at the time like "All for You", "Hot in Herre", "Mo Money Mo Problems" and more. Towards the end of the performance, Jackson and Timberlake were performing Timberlake's 2003 hit "Rock Your Body". As soon as Timberlake sang the final line "I'm gonna have you naked by the end of this song", he pulled off a part of Jackson's costume which ultimately exposed her right breast on live TV in front of millions of people for only a few seconds. However, those few seconds caused a lot of controversy.

After the performance, which was dubbed Nipplegate, Jackson received a lot of backlash and hate for absolutely no reason. For the next couple of years following the performance, her singles and music videos were blacklisted from radio stations and television. Her next three albums were significantly affected because critics were only talking about the performance and not how good the albums were. Even though Timberlake was essentially the person who caused the whole Nipplegate situation, his career wasn't affected at all. His songs weren't blacklisted from radio, his music videos weren't blacklisted from television, his albums were still successful after the performance, and he was even invited back to headline the halftime show at Super Bowl LII last year.

This whole event is a prime example on double standards which sadly still exist in our society. Jackson is an iconic performer from an even more iconic family who was one of the biggest stars throughout the 80s, 90s, and early 2000s. In my opinion, I don't think her career hasn't fully recovered since. Timberlake was just starting out in his solo career after leaving his successful boy-band *NSYNC when the whole scandal broke out and afterwards he got more successful. I do understand that this was over fifteen years ago and we have come a long way since 2004 but the problem of double standards is still very prominent in our society in every career field. Why can't we get to place where all genders are equal? Why can't everyone be put on the same pedestal when it comes to situations like this one? The NFL and the American people still need to apologize to Janet Jackson for essentially putting her successful multi-decade career at a standstill. She deserves better.

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