Welcome to 2015, where we have apps for our smartphones to meet people with a swipe of a finger! A strange phenomenon to our elders, but “cool” for us millennials.
Tinder has become increasingly popular to many college-aged students in terms of starting new relationships. In reality, we are in the works of changing the entire dating scene we once watched our siblings and cousins enjoy for something that puts the superficial aspects in a relationship at the top of our concerns. The tinder app has revolutionized dating, as we know it, making relationships easier to find. Think about it. We create a profile; we set our gender preference, maximum distance, and have an “about me” section to describe who we are as a person. We even get to choose our photos that we believe we look best in.
Our dates are not getting to see who we really are; they get to see whom we want them to see. This, in fact, is a major problem with social media apps in the first place. Our Tinder profile is linked to our Facebook account and if you choose our Instagram profiles, as well. We are becoming more reliant on the superficial aspects that our generation have become content with, instead of being satisfied with ourselves whole-heartedly. Do you have any mutual friends? Since, in fact, a majority of us barely know all of our friends on social media. However, by what we see on Facebook, we truly believe we know of this individual. Such and such is friends with this person, they must be an all right person, right? Wrong. Nevertheless, when did a message saying “Netflix and chill,” become the norm? Are we okay with this change? I certainly am not. Hell, we could be talking to sex offenders and not even know it. Where are the days when we courted our dates and got to know who they are face-to-face? What about actually getting the hint they want to get to know you, rather than getting in your pants, or liking your moment?
Swiping right has become more of a compliment to us, rather than “You have a beautiful smile.” Cat-fishing people are certainly on the rise, as well. We set our social media profiles to be open to the public, and it just takes one creep to save your photos and pretend as you. What in the hell is wrong with society? If we are going to use such apps like this, let's be smart about it. I know we cannot technically control the “Catfish” type, so if you are a self-proclaimed catfish, grow up, you are not cool. In fact, you are truly strange. I wish one day that everyone can love himself or herself. Not what they put on social media, but genuinely love the things that make them so special. We are all special, and each made with ounces of superb qualities. I hate to break it to you, but Tinder has never ended happily ever after for a majority of us. If you are one of those people that have made it work, kudos, you must be doing something right. For the rest of us, we need to wake up and realize that we truly do not need to be content with someone swiping right. We should become content with ourselves, and hit the dating scene with an open mind. Do not strict yourself to Tinder, but rather make your dating possibilities endless.
In a world where we only have “Sex and the City” reruns on E! I am constantly asking myself “what would Carrie do?” Let us value who we truly are as a person and love ourselves. Let us not honor the floozies and creeps attempting to get nude pictures. Be yourself and the right person will come along.
