Change is inevitable. No matter if it is good or bad, change is one of the few things in life you can rely on. Change is also something that is very common for people to hate and fear the most in life. Being the type of person who struggles stepping out of their comfort zone and opening up to people is a hard thing to deal with. Being in your 20’s, change happens almost every day. Every day you grow and everyday you watch the people around you grow. I have a hard time deciding what I’m going to eat for breakfast every day, how am I supposed to know what I want to do with the rest of my life?
Things change without you even knowing it but it’s the major things in life that change and can be the scariest. The fear of people leaving, the fear of not knowing what the next step in life is, the fear of not knowing what could happen tomorrow or who will be standing next to you.
What I have learned throughout the years of letting the fear of change get the best of me is to just live day by day. Yes, planning ahead is always good but nothing can be predicted and nothing is certain until it actually happens. You also need to pick and choose what to care about. You can’t live only worrying about what people think, at the end of the day you are you longest commitment. The person you are relying on for happiness today could be the one who leaves you tomorrow. You can’t let what the random person at a bar said about you alter the way you dress or act, don’t let anyone but yourself be the reason for change.
Through experience I’ve had to learn to adapt to change. Whether it be my family going from strong and steady to weak and broken or the adjustment of living on my own in college, without my mom and having to learn to do things on my own. Then we get to the relationships, some stay local then some become long distance. It’s hard to watch some of your friends every year grow, graduate and leave, then you’re left to maintain a long-distance, lifelong relationship with them.
The only solution I have found to help with the fear of change is to let every day take its course and see where it goes. In the end, where it goes is where it’s meant to be. Somethings are in your control but others are not but everything happens for a reason.
