When you hear the someone say, “We’re in a long distance relationship" what are some of the first thoughts that come to mind?
I would guess there is slight doubt; maybe you wonder how long it could last. Or maybe you think that long distance just isn't a viable way to have a relationship. No matter what you think, please listen up. I write this for all couples doing the distance. We hate feeling this silent disapproval you have for our relationships. All we ask is that you open your mind to the fact that long distance love exist and not only that it actually turns out very beautifully for so many people.
Long distance relationships or LDR’s aren't people who are think to themselves randomly one day, “oh I wonder what being in a relationship hundreds of miles apart would be like". LDR’s are two people who have grown close and truly love and care for each other but realize due to whatever circumstance in their lives they can't be physically together for a time. Personally I am in and have been in an LDR for over 15 months with the sweetest and most caring girl I know. For her and I the circumstance that creates the distance is college. There are many others with their own stories who feel this same stigma that exists about LDR's.
Now I'm no expert and I don't have it all right but I do know that so often it feels like when people hear you're dating someone hundreds of miles away or overseas or whatever the case there is obvious hesitancy and lack of approval or encouragement. That needs to stop! This is coming from me and so many others. Every time I tell someone, "I have a girlfriend who goes to college two states away and I only see her every few months" people immediately shut down to the idea of it being a legitimate or even healthy relationship. My question is just because you don't understand or think it doable how does that give you the right to judge the outcome or the circumstances?
That stigma needs to be addressed and eradicated from peoples minds. Distance doesn't define the power of the love. Love knows no distance. Long distance means the love you feel is so powerful and so real you will do whatever it takes as long as it takes until the time you can be together again. Long distance relationships aren't doomed to fail, they are bound to succeed.The hardest struggle for many is dealing with the world pushing these ideas such as, "It'll never work out" or they create the "How do you know they aren't doing this behind your back?" and so on. That's just a distraction and a lie.
A lot of times I realize others may not understand and it might seem crazy or even impossible to them. News flash, long distance love is real and I've seen personal friends go through a LDR and get married. I want to people to realize that just because you don't understand the distance doesn't mean you can define it. Distance is just phase, it's only for a time. Believe me I am sure anyone would tell you that they want to be with their significant other in person if they could be.
So what? Well, maybe all this seems like an overreaction or confusing but if you can take one thing from what i am saying then let it be this. Long distance relationships can be fantastic, it is a choice made from love. Doing distance is telling someone they are so worth it you'll do anything to support, grow and move forward in the incredible relationship you have. Yes it has its hard moments and rough spots but no matter what true love knows no boundaries. Your opinions don't define my love, or anyone else's for that matter!
