The Stages Of A Theater Crush

The Stages Of A Theater Crush

(or any crush, for that matter.)

Being in a show can be one of the most magical experiences. You dedicate your life to the rehearsals! However, it’s hard not to begin to fall for one of your cast members when you’re both spending so much time together. Tech week can especially be a major facilitator in developing a crush.

The stages of developing a crush on your cast mate can be slightly different in the theater world. Crushes develop in a shorter time span and feel more intense when you’re spending at least four hours a day with them. Also, we theater people tend to be a bit crazy with the amounts of emotion we have, and so when you have two people with a lot of emotion, it can be an extremely passionate experience.

Here is the progression of developing a crush on a castmate or a crush, in general:

The Friendly Chatter.

There are so many pockets of downtime during rehearsals and especially during tech week. Opportunities for conversations are an abundant commodity and the moments of free time are an excellent catalyst in getting to know a castmate.

The Gradual Osmosis.

This happens once you’ve reached a higher level of emotional intimacy, due to all those earlier random conversations. Without realizing it, you begin to watch them with a keen eye when they’re called on stage. You find your gaze wandering over to them in the dressing room. You begin to place yourself near them in order to create opportunity for another conversation.

The Infection.

Images of them constantly infect your mind and you find it much more difficult to focus on your scene and characterization. You think less about how you can fully embody your character and more about how your crush perceives you while you deliver each line.

The Epiphany.

There comes a point when you make the connection. You finally put two and two together and realize you have developed a crush on this person.

The Calculation.

Once you realize you have a crush you begin to ponder if they may feel the same way about you. You begin to overly assess every conversation, hand brush, eye contact, and shared moment your mind can remember. You go home and make sure you’re on incognito before you embarrassingly begin to look up things such as “How can you tell if a guy likes you?”

The Frustration.

You overthink everything and begin to get annoyed at yourself for letting them distract your mind from rehearsals


This is when the frustration of distraction has gotten to the point where you realize something has to change. So you do one final assessment and either make a move or forget about the whole thing.

Theater crushes can be incredibly fun, as they provide your mind with an emotional roller coaster, but try not to let the anxiety of the crush ruin your love of the theater. The two can complement each other without hindering the other!

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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