As we go through our lives, we all imagine what our future husband will be like. Physical features, attributes, their personality and maybe even their career choice, we all take these things into consideration whenever we’re younger and dating. Then as time passes some understand that maybe the person they dreamt up of may have quite the differences and some may actually end up with their “dream” boyfriend or husband. We dream up someone who isn’t real without even thinking to include how we want him to treat us. Not even giving a second thought to some more important things, as time passes we start to see the bigger picture. Then things change. For instance, I never thought that I’d be dating a police officer. Even more so completely head over heels for him.
Dating to find the “one” especially while we’re all getting a little bit older, can sometimes be very stressful or maybe even rewarding at times. Being 21 and feeling as if there’s nobody out there for you because they’re simply not looking for something mature and serious (marriage maybe?), or even if there’s nobody out there because they’re not looking for something casual (a useless fling). Either way, finding someone that you can connect with or have any type of chemistry with is never easy. I guess the point I’m trying to make is that if you go through life thinking that you know exactly what you want, you’ll be disappointed whenever you find out that things might turn out different for you.
Now, how would I know that right? Let’s go back to my police officer, emphasis on the “my” since I do take some (or maybe even a lot) of pride in him being mine. Thinking back on how I used to dream up my “perfect” future husband/boyfriend. I thought about how different we’d be from each other, how he’d be a photographer or something else a little artsy. I thought he’d be a lot of random things that usually just popped into my head. And now years later I know everything about the “perfect boyfriend” that I’ve thought so much about in the past. We’d actually turn out to be much more alike than I thought, extremely picky about food, sassier than we think we are in certain situations. I’ve learned a lot about him within the past couple of months but my absolute favorite thing about him has to be that he’s my best friend. Whenever I dreamt up the guy I thought I’d end up with, I never even tried to think about how he’d treat me. Now that I’m with my dream guy (who is also the right one/man for me), he’s so much better than I could’ve ever dreamt up. Being with him, having him in my life and learning so much more about each other as every day passes.. it brings me an endless amount of happiness that I can live with forever.
As life goes on and you try to decide to give someone a chance, just by the characteristics you used to dream up years ago. Think about giving new things a chance, take that leap of faith. You never know where the “right one” will be.
