Do you ever wake up feeling extra blessed? I feel like everyone should - I mean, your eyes are open and your feet are on the floor. I try to find the little, simple blessings every morning and today I woke up feeling extra blessed with the people in my life; more directly, the girlfriends I have in my life. I’ve been blessed to have some pretty great friends - guys and girls- all of my life, but it wasn’t until recently that I truly realized how much the girls I hold close actually do for me. I know, that sounds selfish and almost ignorant, BUT as humans, we do tend to take the best things for granted.
I’m blessed with the absolute best set of girlfriends that I take for granted daily - they truly are my heart and soul and there is not a man alive that could ever compromise the relationship and love I have for each of them.
There are times in life where we think that we have to pick our current crush over our friends and we tend to do so without thinking twice. Only when that current fling or relationship ends do we sit back and realize how stupid we were to cut ties with people that meant so much to us. Sometimes, friendships are repairable and sometimes they aren’t, but that’s life. Everyone, guys and girls alike, are guilty of doing this at some point in his or her lives; my lesson was learned in high school, for example, but everyone is different.
It’s true that you do lose a lot of friends after you graduate high school, but not always do you lose all of them. My best friends in high school were my friends since second grade, fifth grade, and junior high - I still talk to them quite frequently and manage to grab dinner when we can. Life does happen and everyone does go separate ways, but that doesn’t mean a drink here or there is too much to pencil in. I always thought guys were easier to get along with because of all of the drama in high school and while that was sometimes true, I’m thankful for those that stuck it out with me.
Today, as a senior in college, I have made some of the most amazing friends in this world. I didn’t know it was possible to have a group of so many fun, loving, crazy people - truly, it’s mess most days, but it’s always a good time. It’s funny, really, thinking that you wouldn’t hear from your friends in high school, but never imaging a time that you won’t hear from/see your college friends. I guess that just shows how life works.
If I could go back to high school Emily, I would tell her to do a lot of things differently, I think. One of which would be to realize then that whatever boy I was currently hung up on wouldn’t be a constant and my friends would be. If I could scream something from the rooftops to kids that are in high school today- it would be just that; STOP acting like your friends are replaceable. I wish that all of use could see what lies in front of us and could see how stupid the things that we used to worry over are - but I guess that’s how we grow up and how we learn.
Today, some little girl is literally thinking that her life is over because her best friend of the week likes the boy that she was “so over” two days ago. I wish our worries were that small again, but like the rest of us, that little girl will grow up soon and realize that losing her “best friend” either was or wasn’t worth it. I truly wish that I could wipe her tears and make her understand that the best is yet to come, that boy means nothing, and her friends that are wiping her tears are EVERYTHING.
To MY girls, thank you for never judging and always loving me. We're all different, but the same- the amount of times you’ve managed to pick me up without even knowing that I was down is remarkable. Thank you for understanding my love for sunsets and rises, good <cheap> wine, and stupid TV shows. I don’t know who I’m meant to meet at the end of the aisle one day, but I do know who will be standing behind me – and that in itself is such a blessing.
