No one ever said relationships were easy, and they definitely never said long distance relationships are easy. Now, try doing that while in college. Although there are many preconceived notions about how hard LDRs must be and how the majority of the time they won't last, those aren't always true. People who aren't in a long distance relationship try to understand how hard it must be, but they'll never fully get it until they experience it for themselves. The other half of people just tell you to end it right away because college is about experiencing new things and new people. It's just not that simple. Yes, there are numerous cons that go along with being in a LDR, but for every con there is a pro. Here is a list of my personal LDR pros and cons:
- PRO: You only have to share your bed when your boyfriend or girlfriend comes to visit. You can sprawl out and take up as much space in the bed as you want to. This also means you never have to worry about your significant other hogging all the blankets. They can deny it all they want, but they definitely steal your covers.
- CON: Sleeping alone is very lonely. The majority of the time you wish your blanket hog was stealing the covers because even though that's so annoying, you secretly miss wrestling for the blankets in your sleep. Most of all, you just miss cuddling. Thank God for body pillows!
- PRO: You probably communicate more than a couple that sees each other everyday. Your phone is stuck up your butt 24/7 and you thank Steve Jobs everyday for his brilliant mind, because without him, there would be no such thing as FaceTime. If you aren't FaceTiming or talking on the phone, you are Snapchatting, tweeting, or tagging each other in comments on an Instagram parody account that relates to your relationship.
- CON: Your whole relationship literally revolves around technology. Oh, something excited or wicked funny happened to you today and you can't wait to tell your boo thing? Well, you're going to have to wait because they are busy and can't talk on the phone right this minute. So, you text it, but they won't even read it with as much excitement or until hours later, for that matter. This causes you to constantly check your phone. UGH! First world probs.
- PRO: You don't have to worry about trying to figure out where you both want to eat. Wow, what a relief!!! I don't know why, but talk about a struggle when it comes to making this very important decision. It's nice to not always have to compromise or make decisions for two people.
- CON: You're the worst when it comes to making decisions. You often wish that your bf/gf were around to get fed up with your indecisive self and just make the decision for you. You miss having the one person around that truly understands you.
- PRO: You can look like a homeless person and not care what anyone thinks because the only opinion you care about lives miles away. This means you can go makeup-free for however long you'd like. If you don't feel like shaving for weeks, then more power to you!
- CON: You miss having reasons and a special someone to look good for. Even though getting ready is a pain in the ass, you enjoy the compliments that come along with it.
- PRO: When you visit each other, it's basically like going on a mini vacation. You get to explore the cities where you both live. Talk about great date nights! After all, relationships are all about making memories and this is the perfect way to do that.
- CON: Traveling. Sure, road trips are awesome but they actually suck when you constantly have to do them by yourself. Not only is it time consuming but it is also expensive. Another thing that sucks is that you have to travel hours just for a hug, kiss, or something more. Oh, the things you do for love.
- PRO: Seeing each other. It's the same feeling as when you were a kid waking up on Christmas morning, only 10 times better. It is definitely an indescribable feeling. The few times you finally get to see each other is when you realize why you're putting yourself through something that can be so difficult at times. In those moments all the bullshit you put up with just goes out the window. The pros outweigh the cons by a long shot and you remember that the distance is only temporary, but your love for one another isn't.
