Just like most of the population over the age of eighteen, I am on Tinder.

No, I don't typically utilize Tinder it for its true purpose. Personally, I will talk to guys about 25% of the time. Usually, I'll swipe through bios for my own personal entertainment. I really dig the presentational slideshow bios. They're way funnier and provide better information about what you'd be getting into. I rarely meet the men that I talk to unless I already know them.

Either way, I have a Tinder. Your sister, brother, and single mother probably do, too. Guess what, they all talk to people! Some (or most) of their conversations aren't as clean as you think they'd be. I know, it's a tough thought. Especially since you know your friends and family could be on this dating app.

But don't you think that should be different?

Why is the average person on Tinder overly sexual? Shouldn't conversations on the app start just like a normal one would in person? A simple "Hey, how are you?" or even a humorous pick-up line can send the conversation in a great direction, as opposed to jumping into sex-talk.

I may have gotten only a few solid pick-up lines that didn't make me feel uncomfortable. One was, "I'll supply your coffee needs for life," and the other was, "Your eyes are the prettiest shade of tap water I have ever seen." The second was also sent to my roommate in that same instant. So it wasn't sincere at all. I didn't know either guy prior to that, and neither went further than a simple conversation on this app. But I still had longer conversations with them than I ever have with any guy who's asked me to do something sexual in the first five messages.

Can you see where this is going?

A lot of friends have expressed how disgusted or fed up they are when they receive unwarranted or sexually explicit messages on Tinder (or any other app, for that matter). It's not fair to assume that someone will have sex with you just because they're on the app. Sure, you're practically window shopping and swiping away the things you don't want, but, like I mentioned before, people actually do read those bios. People care just as much about who you are on the inside as they do about your exterior.

At least, I still like to think that.

I hope that the majority still thinks the same. Beauty is only skin-deep. If there's nothing beneath the shell, there's no way that a sustainable relationship (be it long-term or not) can flourish.

People will state what they want once they're comfortable with you. What's the point in starting a conversation on the wrong foot? What happened to getting to know a person?

What happened to meeting someone in a bar or at a sporting event and exchanging numbers from there? What happened to being present in the world and actually giving a shit about another person's comfort level?

It's not just Tinder, either! It's Bumble, OkCupid!, and plenty of other dating apps.

My experiences have only been with men, but I know for a fact that they're not the only ones to blame for the ridiculous conversations that happen online. It's women, too. There is no specific gender or sexuality that this affects. It's a wide-spread disease-like issue. It's like a wildfire.

We should go back to meeting people the old-fashioned way.

Just delete Tinder and go outside if you're looking for something serious. You won't find it there.

And you'll thank me later.